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ParticipantWhy wait for him to make the move? He’s probably not sure if you feel the same way. You have to be an active participant in this too. You can’t ever leave it all up to men or else it will never get done (sorry guys). Just talk to him and ask how he feels and tell him how you feel, it may scare him a little but he’ll get over it & he’ll have to give you a straight answer. ParticipantHey I’m so glad you two are talking about this its VERY important. I know how hard it is to talk about these things. As for advice, my sister just recently got married and she started going out A LOT, to parties and bars and she was just trying to maintain her own life and her own lifestyle. But once my brother in law got the gall to talk it out (and my sister is DEFINITELY not a talker) they worked it out. Its hard to make the adjustment from single to spouse. I think once a week is sufficient for a girls night out or bar hopping unless your spouse is with you, if she wants to spend more time with her friends and not be home alone why doesn’t she go over to there house (or have them come over), have poker nights, or take dance lessons, any of these things are lots of fun but with out alcohol or the bar scene. Good luck to you both. And keep talking its so important.
😉 Participanthappy to help. 🙂 As to your other question, don’t tell her she “can’t” go thats super controlling. YOu should never have the final say in your significant other’s decisions. Say if she wants to wear a short skirt and you want her to change and throw a fit about. Or wanting her to report to you where she is or what she’s doing ALL THE TIME. If you avoid making the last call and still give her free will then you not controlling. Now you can OF COURSE give an opinion on something but if you talk to her like you would say your kid, or a younger sibling then its not cool.
ParticipantHe does love me and says he likes sex because its an intimacy thing. But today for example we were together and i wanted to have sex but then as he pushed harhder i didnt and then a fight began. We actually broke up today and ended up together again because he finally said “i love you, dont leave” yet he broke up with me. I’m so lost at this time and he says we can just stop but I don’t think HE can. Participantsomeone? please? ParticipantI think you need to find some facts like was he sick or did he fake it, why didnt he answer your calls, and why was he with her? And make your decision based on his responses ParticipantListen I’ve been in your position and the best thing to realize is that maybe you don’t deserve another chance. And I’m not saying give up, beacause if you really care, show him it in everything you do. Romance may not help you but sheer persistance may do the trick. I hurt my boyfriend & we’re still together but he’s still not over and it was a year ago. Give him time but make it known you want to be with him. Good luck. And remember you take what he throws at you and let him see how much you care. ParticipantAsk him to go out for coffee or something after work, INITIATE CONTACT! It’s not always up to the man so step up and tell him or better SHOW HIM that you still care. Yes it’ll put you out on a limb but the worst he can do is say no and when you think about it thats better than sitting there wondering what would happen. 🙂 YOU CAN DO IT!ParticipantI think she should invite you and if the other guy has an issue with it then she can simply say she thought the invitation extended to both of you, which it should have. Also, is this other guys gf going to be there, because if she is then you needn’t worry, if he’s stupid enough to hit on your girl in front of his girl then neither of them will want him. Just make sure you’re not making it sound like you don’t trust her. ParticipantYou should trust her, and if you don’t then well there ya go. Give her a chance and I’m pretty sure if this firend made a move on her she’d say, “I’m engaged now, knock it off!” -
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