Solo323

[Solo323]

Thank you both Cutipie91 and April Masini for your advice. Sorry I did not get back to you sooner I have been out in the field with the military. I also haven’t gone out with her since either. Although she still returns my texts when I get a chance to text and I have read your book April Masini. I think I did pick up some things that I needed to reform. I defiantly see that she was throwing definite signs out to me. I hope because of my absence for a couple of months with the guard that I haven’t lost too much ground to recover. Any words of advice on how to approach her again after my absent time? Or do you think I may have lost to much time? From what I know of her I think she is worth any amount of time or energy I would invest in her .

[Solo323]

Thank you so much for getting me on a right track. I need feel like I need so much help due to my lack of dating. I agree with everything. As far as buying my drinks I would go to the restroom and when I came out she would hand me a beer. She didn’t end up giving me a ride she just asked if I needed one when my car wouldn’t start. She had already made it to her home and she texted me to let me know she made it home safely and to see if I made it home. When she found out my car wouldn’t start she asked if I needed a ride. Then she texted me when I made it home if I could help her take off her shirt.
Is it true that some girls are nervous to dance with guys they like? And she said next time we go out we need to go to a place other than a club because it’s too weird. Now is that because I m in a friend zone or she likes me and is nervous dancing with a guy she likes? She did seem like she was nervous and she kept telling me that she was shy, and then her cousins kept wanting her to go meet up with them where they were at and she stayed with me. Is that some kind of sign? Then she said that I could dance with anyone on the dance floor since she didn’t feel like dancing and that she is not the jealous type, although I knew one of the female bartenders there and when she came up to talk to me my date rudely said why don’t you just go with your little bar girl, I told her the only one I want to dance with is her and if she doesn’t want to dance I am just having fun talking. Was that a test or what was the deal with asking me to dance with someone else?

Here are the text messages between us that night there are some blanks and name changed for personal and privacy reasons sorry about spelling :
Me (12/18):
Are we still on for tonight?
her (12/18):
Yeah what time
Me (12/18):
Sorry my fone died how about 730 800
her (12/18):
8 would be good
me (12/18):
Do u want me to pick u up? Yr light enough
her (12/18):
No I will meet u
Me (12/18):
Do you like _____(restaurant)?
her (12/18):
I’m at a poker party. Let’s go somewhere else
Me (12/18):
What do u have in mind?
her (12/18):
I dont know
Me (12/18):
R u hungry
her (12/18):
No. Im not gonna be able to meet u till like 9. Is that okay
Me (12/18):
Thats fine
her(12/18):
Okay. Im drinking a little So u drink to
Me (12/18):
Do you want to dance or go to see Comedy so of my friends know the owners of _____ they are having comedy club tonight they have a table they just said how many people
her(12/18):
What?
Me (12/18):
Did you want to do dancing or go to a comedy club?
her (12/18):
What ever u want
Me (12/18):
Do you know where the comedy club is at?
her (12/18):
___and ___
Me (12/18):
Yeah wanna meet me there?
her (12/18):
Yeah
Me (12/18):
Ok do you like comedy
her(12/18):
Maybe
Me (12/18):
Maybe? Have u ever been to a comedy club
her(12/18):
No
Me (12/18):
Let me know when u get here
her(12/18):
K. Yr there now
Me (12/18):
Yeah
her (12/18):
Do u wanna go to tower
Me (12/18):
Right now? it gets over at 1000 or 1030 we can go after
her (12/18):
Yeah what?
Me (12/18):
R u on yr way
her (12/18):
In a bit
Me (12/18):
ok
her(12/18):
What?
Me (12/18):
R u ok?
her(12/18):
Yeah y?
Me (12/18):
R u comming over here
her (12/18):
Where?
Me (12/18):
Comedy club?
her(12/18):
Ima going to get my car
Me (12/18):
Its ok only 30min left
her (12/18):
K
Me (12/18):
If you didnt want to go i would i went some where else instead of sitting here by myself For 2 hours
This is where she wanted to go to tower district and meet up with her cousins at club and she said I could meet her there but I went to another club.
Me (12/18):
Ok im in tower district at ____
her(12/18):
K i will go right now
Me (12/18):
I love this song
her (12/18):
Where
Me (12/18):
I m at ______
her (12/18):
Oh
Me (12/19):
Im so drunk
her (12/19):
Me too
Me (12/19):
Would you want to do this again w/ me?
her(12/19):
No more clubs. Some where else
Me (12/19):
**** My car wont start
her(12/19):
Do u need some help
Me (12/19):
No I think I can get it, I will walk if i have too
her(12/19):
Where r u at
Me (12/19):
___and ___
her (12/19):
OkaY u want to meet u
Me (12/19):
Im gonna try one mor thing if it dont work
her (12/19):
K text me
Me (12/19):
I got itstarted, but i should have said i need help so i could c u again. R u home?
her (12/19):
Im just getting home
Me (12/19):
You made it home safty? so y no mo clubs?
her (12/19):
Cuss its weird. R u home okay
Me (12/19):
Ok so just dinners for now. Not home yet
her (12/19):
I need help taking my shirt off u wanna come help me
Me (12/19):
yeaah
her (12/19):
Im just playing. Ima go to bed now. Have sweet dreams
This is the next morning
Me (11:17 AM):
Goodmorning goodlooking, how r u doing?
her (11:22 AM):
Okay. Being a taxi
Me (11:28 AM):
So where are you driving people to?
her (11:29 AM):
The store. My mom is cooking so she needed more stuff
Me (11:48 AM):
I could help you out and then you could start your own family taxi company. How does that sound?
her (11:51 AM):
Yr funny
Me (12:29 PM):
I know i am but you r funny also… You and your pinky finger last night
her(12:33 PM):
What ever. I was drunk
Me (12:39 PM):
So you gonna blame it on the alcohol.. I think there is a song about tht
her(12:40 PM):
Yes

[Solo323]

Thank you again

[Solo323]

I’m sorry I didn’t responded right away to your advice I have been busy at work. Anyways THANK YOU SO MUCH YOU WERE DEAD ON!!!! The more I thought about it the more your advice fit and matched.
I did what you told me to do, I am trying to put more face time in even if it is going to visit her at work briefly and writing her little funny notes. I also am trying to give her more of the boyfriend vibe and less player vibe. We also went on our first official date which started out a little iffy.
Ok now here is where I don’t know what to think again. We went on our first date she showed up 50mins late from a poker party stayed for a few mins with me at the comedy club then wanted to leave to meet with her cousins at a club else were. I invited myself and she told me to call her after the act was over so she could meet with me. I did and she answered and we met up at a club separate from her cousins. She kept buying me drinks wouldn’t let me pay at all, her cousins kept texting her to hook her up with a guy and she kept telling them that she was going to stay with me. She wouldn’t dance with me saying that it felt awkward because she is shy and doesn’t go with guys to clubs without her cousins. She continues to laugh at my jokes. The whole time she had her back to me but she would always move closer to me. She would also touch my hand and let it linger there for a while whenever she would hand me a beer. At the end of the night she offered to give me a ride home if I needed it.
I am still confused about her liking me or not and it doesn’t help that since we went out she has not returned my text and we went out Friday night 12/18/2009. Should I continue to text her or not, and when I mean text her I only sent one or two texts? The other thing is she wouldn’t dance with me. Is she really shy or is she giving me a blow off sign? She shows up to a date 50min late what’s that about? I think I am just so new to dating I am all confused. Do I just need to chill out and go with the flow? Please help me again.

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