joseph.m

[joseph.m]

Thanks for all the support guys, honestly really appreciate it.
The other night was hard to tell we both had a bit to do drink and smoked a bit of g*nga together then i said exactly what she said to me a week ago after we had slept together “that i want to cuddle you and sleep beside you” she said her friend was coming home soon (we were living in a studio apartment no bedroom, a place her and a female friend i know well were going to rent fell through and i agreed to let her live there because she moved from another town and had no-where to go).
So i left and then the txting happened, but yes feels like something is still there. We have been intimate together no less than a week ago and she sent me that txt “is it bad that i want to cuddle you and sleep beside you”, i find it’s so push pull with us. When i decided to put my foot down after the 5am call she got scared and freaked out a bit. She has said that she doesn’t want me to just slip away after this.
We were txting last night and agreed on a few things, she said that she wants to remain friends and i said i want that to but is it wise for us to remain friends and that i think some space is important and said it would be weird to see me with another girl, i said the same about her but both came to terms that it is healthy for both of us to try going on a few dates with other people as other people are interested, the conversation was civil and ended with a goodnight.
The space didn’t last long as she came into my work today for something that she could’ve txt me about. I’m trying not to read to much into it but every time i mention space she doesn’t give it to me.

On a more positive note i downloaded a copy of “the magic of making up” and today felt more like myself than in a long time, i have already done some of the positives he suggests and some of the negatives when we first broke up but the guy is legit.

Thanks again

[joseph.m]

Cheers 88maroon,
It’s nice to be able to relate to someone else about this.
We hung out again last night and things were ok, alot of joking around and i made a subtle move on her with words but i just left and after we were flirting a bit via txt because i had forgotten something. She asked me “am i trying to flirt with her?” i responded “i will just come and get my wine”, then she said she thought she was funny. I got it then left quickly.
I just don’t know if another gesture/something special will work, i understand i’ve got nothing to lose but my pride lol. I still love the girl with every part of me but i feel defeated and theres only so much i can take. I would love nothing more than to get another crack. My head tells me one thing and my heart another.
April has said i’m confused and need to act on my decisions to get over it but again it’s that love thing.

Thanks again

[joseph.m]

Your logic is right i know.
But no matter what i try i still think about her 24/7 and love her.
Thanks again for all your advice

[joseph.m]

Hi April,

Sorry to bug you again, but in the last post i sent you i said that i told her that i wanted her as my girlfriend again and she said it was too soon. She has also told me she has doubts whether we will ever get back what we had.

I want her back but don’t know what the next move is, please help.

Thanks again joseph.m

[joseph.m]

Thank you so much April, i’m amazed you responded so quickly.
Thanks for the advice, i think you hit the nail on the head with my confusion.I have noticed i’ve changed for the better in the last month, quick smoking and work out 4 times a week now and feeling better about myself.
I know i want her more than anything and think she still wants me although i did forget that i left out one detail, that when i told her we needed to talk “sooner the better” i told her i want her to be my girlfriend again, she said it was too soon and thats when i said i was moving on.
Is the right idea to take it slow and build from the ground up.

Thanks again

[Author]

Posts