[jsh12365]

Ok, I asked her to meet me for lunch. I thought that would be the best to feel out the situation with her (ex?)BF where we could talk away from work. Also, I’ve got an injury that’s got me off work for at least 3 weeks and she’s been taking classes part time before work. Here’s how the conversation went:

M: (after I’d told her I was going to be off for a few days) Do you want to meet for lunch before work/class?
H: I would love to not have to wear work clothes all the time. I get dressed for work to go to class
M: I can do anytime, just thought that would be easier for you
H: Yeah, I will try and get up early on non school day
M: Ok, LMK when is good for you
H: I’ll get back to you. and ended conversation with emoji of blushing smiley face.
Also, the next day I was rereading the conversation and accidentally liked one of her posts during that exchange with a smiling face with hearts for eyes, lol. I was just a comment of “oh, ouch” after I told her about my injury. Could that have freaked her out?
That’s been 4 days ago and I haven’t heard anything else, but since she said she’d get back with me I didn’t want to come on too strong. Was the comment about work clothes a hint she wants to so something on the weekend? I’m thinking that comment and her ending with the blushing smiley face emoji are very good signs?

[jsh12365]

So, it’s been a while since my last post. I never did ask her out. Every time I would mention something going on that I was thinking about going to or ask her what her plans were for the weekend to lead into asking her out, she would quickly bring up her boyfriend. I took it that she wasn’t interested..at least right now.
A few weeks later I noticed she’d taken all of the pics of him off her Facebook. I assumed they’d broken up and I messaged her one Friday night. We talked for several hours, but towards the end she mentioned her boyfriend again. And not long after she told me they were getting an apartment together. At that point, I backed off a lot. I was still friendly to her but didn’t see her as often and she seemed not as flirty.
I also ran into an hold friend I dated a little bit a long time ago at an outdoor concert in town and went out with her again a few times. But, I’m not feeling it with this girl and just want to be friends.
Well, tonight I saw the co worker again for the first time in a month or so. And made mention of a Facebook post she’d made last week about buying a lot to build a house. I told her I saw where you guys have bought a lot. She immediately corrected me that SHE had bought it, not them. I just said “oh”. And she told me that things “aren’t good”. That they had broken up, but the lease is forcing them to stay together. She said he was just going to leave because his credit is bad, hers is good. But I guess they decided to stay together because she’s worried about her credit when she’s getting ready to build this house. The lease isn’t up until September, but she made some comment about not knowing if she can make it till then. Should I have acted excited to her that they’d broken up? And is she sending me signals to ask her out? Do I need to let her know now that I’d like to take her out when she’s single or should I wait until they’re no longer living together?

[jsh12365]

It’s been a few days and only been around her once. I’m just hesitant because a couple of years ago something similar happened (not with anyone I worked with). Got to know a girl fairly well and felt she was into me. She had a recent BF, but was not happy with him. She flat out told me, so I told her if she wanted to I’d like to take her out. She kind of freaked out, wouldn’t even give me a yes or no answer. From then on it was really awkward around her, we never talked a whole lot afterwards. She did end up leaving her boyfriend and started dating a new guy soon. I don’t want that to happen with this current woman. It’s not quite the same situation, I’m definitely a lot more comfortable talking with her. Since my last post, she seemed happy to see me again when I talked to her for a little bit. One question she asked seemed kind of odd to me, if I wanted to ever go to dayshift? I don’t but most our coworkers do, she said she didn’t either. I’m probably reading too much into it, but it seemed odd at the time. How’s the best way to go about it without it ending up like the other girl?

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