You sound as though you’ve grown quite a bit since your first post. Good for you. You were hurting, and maybe you still are, but you’re moving on with your life. That is key.
Dwelling on the past does us no good, and doesn’t let us feel good about ourselves. We need to be able to communicate our feelings in more than one way, and the non-verbal signals we send out are so important. People can sense how we feel about ourselves.
If we exude confidence and sexuality, we’ll be much more likely to receive the same. Who really wants to attract someone by being vulnerable due to a bad relationship or an unhappy ending?
Start fresh, be happy with yourself before you try hooking up with anyone else, and start living and enjoying your life! Congratulations on taking that first step, and keep your chin up.