kayloni

[kayloni]

I believe that this girl does have feelings for you. I don’t know if I would call it love. I don’t know her or her behavioral patterns as a person. I think that she may have experienced a very controlling and overly jealous ex, and she is applying his habits to you and your relationship with her.

Before she confronts you about anything, she thinks it over in her head, and for some reason or another thinks that you are going to tell her no, then proceeds to find a way around you telling her no. As far as the reason she thinks that you are going to tell her no, I’m not sure. Maybe it’s because she IS going to do or did something that you disapprove of. Or maybe it’s because for some psychological reason she thinks that you will assume that she is going to do something that you disapprove of.

Have you confronted her about WHY she continuously does this?

Here is another question: Is she much younger than you? The reason I ask is because a lot of times (and I know from experience), girls will date older guys for one reason or another, but then they think of them as a fatherly figure…thus making them go behind the man’s back so that they can “be their own age” without the man disapproving as a father would.

I may be way off about this, but I hope I’ve helped a little.

[kayloni]

I don’t know if I would say that you two deserve each other, but I can say that you two either need a fresh start with each other, or a fresh start with someone different. Either way, you need a fresh start. Honesty is always the best policy. That goes for both you and your partner. From the way you write and what you said, it sounds to me like you are still young. You are going to make mistakes. That is inevitable. Just don’t make the same mistake over and over.

If you truly love this guy, then you both need to come clean. However, I feel the need to say that I don’t think that you do truly love this guy. If you have cheated on him “a couple of times”, it seems apparent that you are just looking for someone to be there to give you what you want. That’s not a bad thing. That goes back to what I said about you being young.

In life, you are going to get hurt, and you are going to hurt others. Whether or not he is cheating with this other girl, or whether or not something happened between them on the day of question, I think, is not what you need to be questioning here. I think that what you need to be questioning is what you really want out of him. If he does not make you happy, or he does not fulfill your needs enough for you to cheat on him, then you need to find someone else.

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