the porn is one thing, for me, that would bother me. but going online onto sites that offer discreet online affairs? NO! that is crossing the line. you should think long and hard if you really want to be with this dishonest person. that is no way to start a new relationship let alone a marriage.
you are not spying on him considering he went on these sites on YOUR computer. you have every right to question him about his intentions, but don’t expect the truth. sorry, but he will cheat. i have been with a cheater for 20 plus years and it does not end. sorry to be so blunt, but you need to cancel your wedding NOW!
good luck.
