You are right, now i’ve just came and realized that my feelings for him is no longer intense as what it was before when I was still with him. I guess cultural controversy and my parents prohibitions played its role why these things happened our way. Chinese traditions are very strong and firm enough to let things happen our way or another. I might say that its really on the genes why we are so called ‘RACIST’, racist in the sense that we dont want other specie to crossbreed us, its a SHAME and so alien on our culture’s behalf and as far as the skin color is concerned. Reputation or “face” is an important factor in Chinese life since it connects to one’s pride, social status, dignity, honor, authority, and even trust. The Chinese people never want to do anything that might make them lose face such as talking negatively about themselves or their family. These what Chinese traditions are.
But what happens in my case is self – contradictory, because I do believe that opposites really attract but not for long, its just a casual intimacy or if its not casual yet it will never work in the long run, thats what spark got to do with it, spark is not long lasting, do we need to blame the hormone dopamine for its life span? lol.
Advice to the West, just dont let your emotional guard down when dating a Chinese narcissist ….
Thank you very much April, ur such a good guru, u really know how to gauge someone’s views and ideas by not trying to stir up anything that reflected negatively on the significant other without being able to point clearly to facts as opposed to ‘a feeling ‘, mediocre comments from u gave a lasting impression on me, it would bode well for the future of this site, believe me.
