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I am not in love with him. He is a friend. Please don’t put MALICE into our friendship as if your implying that I’m getting involved with their dilemma just to break them apart. He’s the same age as my nephew. Their is a difference between telling people what to do, and him asking for my perspective on this matter. He just wanted to know if I were in his place, that decision, if he finally decides what to do, will be from his choice. Just as I try to value your opinion which I may, or may not consider to follow. The rest is up to me. However, this is not an issue of free will, it’s about the CHOICES we make in life.

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[quote=”Evie”]Maybe I’m just not the typical American girl who goes out to party and bars. One of my friends/co-worker (who’s a guy) suggested that I should ask him (the guy I like) out (as in ask him out on dates).[/quote]

I agree with your friend. Why not ask him out? However, if you wish to make it sound like it’s not a date thing, then ask him this way……..[color=#800080]I was planning to hang-out with friends this week end, though, at the last minute something came up and some of them are not able to make it. I was wondering if your free this week end, we might be able to hang-out together. If that’s alright with you.
[/color] Now, this sounds like your not asking him out for a date. Once your with him, try to figure out where do you really stand with him. Is the feeling still there? Do you both still feel the same way?

But, if he keeps avoiding you. Then I suggest you move on. He might after all, found someone else. This is from my point of view.

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[quote=”April Masini”]The question here isn’t does he like you, the question is do you like him? Remember, you’re the prize in the relationship, and he needs to chase you and win you. Men feel best about themselves when they’ve won something, and when it comes to dating, that something is you.[/quote]Exactly April.

[quote]I’d advise that you continue to play the field and date other people at the same time as this guy.
[/quote]He’s probably dating other women while dating you. Trying to compare one from the other. A friend of mine used to say “gather them all and select the best”. You should do the same.

[quote]if you grow tired of his failure to phone you, and only chatting on the internet with you two or three times a week, then your answer will be clear. He wasn’t the one.[/quote] Don’t make it easy for him. Remember, their are so many fishes in the sea.

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I know that in a relationship you’ve got to take the good with the bad. You can’t expect everyone to be perfect. So, what makes him priorities his education right now is to be able to get a better job. Why not tell him how you feel. Don’t make it come out as an accusation that he’s not helping out with the expenses. Just try to tell him that your having a difficult time coping up with all your expenditures and it will make you feel better if you can both plan in ways to cut costs.

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Just be supportive to her. And make sure that if she ever does decide to get involve with you, it would be for the right reason and not as a shock absorber of a bad relationship. She should heal herself first before getting involved with you or she might not love you as you are and just force herself to be with you cause you were there at that time when she needed someone to comfort her.

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[quote=”quoth_the_raven”]she met up with her ex (that before me she had been borderline obsessed with) over Easter but when I asked her about it she claimed she hadn’t seen him since before Christmas. I know she’s lying because my friends were in the same pub and saw them together![/quote]

How do you react if she tell you something significant? Some people can’t handle the truth, so this gives others to lie. May be she’s afraid of your reaction since she’s meeting up with a former boyfriend.

[quote]The thing is, nothing happened. They didn’t act like a couple, they didn’t kiss or cuddle… so why bother hiding it? [/quote]

One thing I know is that if you’ve got something to hide, why flaunt it?

I think you should bring up this topics again but before you do, try to reassure her that you won’t get angry emotions cloud your judgment. Then tell her that a friend of yours saw her with her ex. Maybe she will be able to tell you why.

You are right by saying that trust isn’t demanded, it is earned. If you doubt her explanation again, then keep us posted of your progress.

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[color=#000080]why not try to act casually and instigate a second date like…..I was planning to hang out with some friends of mine this weekend but they’ve cancelled it at the last moment. Would you like to hang out with me?

Now, this doesn’t seem to sound too forward, doesn’t it? Try to act as if you treat him like a friend but deep down, your trying to check him out if he really mean what he says. If after that said invitation, nothing comes out of it. Like he doesn’t make another move, then let him go. This is my own point of view.[/color]

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Sometimes I find my self on the very state. Your try to please your man all the time and you end up loosing your self identity.

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