Emilyrockhart

[Emilyrockhart]

I did. I must’ve skimmed through the sex part as it still feels like new territory for me, sorry bout that.

[Emilyrockhart]

[quote=”JackB”]I think that not being friends with somebody just because they’re of the opposite gender is really shortchanging yourself.[/quote]

I do have good friends of the opposite gender too, it’s just that I’ve developed feelings for this particular one. In fact, I think having the opposite gender as friends can really help you open your mind to a lot of things, so it’s good to keep them 🙂

[b]April[/b], previously you said that I have to learn how to communicate my interest. Do you mean the passionate part of me, as in the one that loves writing and painting that I can go on and on about them, or how I should flirt around with him? Which part in the book specifically has info on flirting?

[Emilyrockhart]

I’ve bought the book and read it (finally!) Actually, most of the things in there had been what brief advice my own mom gave to me during my teen years too! It’s just that I didn’t have it in the form of a book, and also the extra advice on *ehem* copulation.

I also realised that I sure am not ready for the dating game :S even if I had scored 7/10 in the mini quiz, it almost seems as though I need a massive change in lifestyle. I make a terrible saleswoman, among other things. For now, I’m actually satisfied with just staying in the friend zone, because I have put up with these types of frustrations before with other guys in my old hometown.

Do you think my current decision is good, or it could’ve been better? Also, I know how the guys need to be the one chasing, but does it matter if I’m the one starting conversations sometimes? Such as switching topics after a pause, asking how was their day, casual small talk etc…

[Emilyrockhart]

Hey April, lately I’ve realise that he has been showing signs that he isn’t interested. So I’ll be getting over him soon.

However, my friend managed to point out one thing for me. All this while I have never been asked out by anyone, only getting news of guys crushing on me, and when I do I get too excited. Also when I like someone, although I try not to show that excited rush I have, they just seem to get scared of me as well.

This is probably a trait of mine that constantly drives men away – that groupie fangirl vibe I have. Do you have any advice on how to get rid of this desperate vibe that comes out of me?

Thanks for all the replies so far though, they have been helpful!

[Emilyrockhart]

So far I’m not getting any signals (other than him FB “liking” those comments his friend made) so I am going to leave it at that. But I think I remember at one point he said he never dated anyone before? (we’re 18 plus) so will it affect his response to flirting?

[Emilyrockhart]

Hi April, it’s me again. I took your advice and tried flirting with him, but then he has a really loud friend who pointed out that I was flirting. I felt really embarrassed but then I swiftly recovered saying something among the lines of is it such a taboo if my confidence level is sky high. Is this a good or a bad thing? By the way, this happened online so does it make all the difference? Will this be a bad impression on my crush now? He hasn’t talked to me since and I’m just waiting till we see each other again at tuition, or should I try something else?

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