Missladyt_17

[Missladyt_17]

Hi April,

I have to tell you this. I told you that I would probably go up to him and introduce myself and I probably would have, but then I thought.Why should I speak to someone that walks by me and not even look my way, not even to say goodmorning. I just went on about my business and when he did pass me, I did not bother to try and make eye contact.

It seems that after that he was trying to run into me intentionally. I would leave and come back and here he comes. He finally was able to pass me in the hallway and he just turned his head completely the other way. I just laughed to myself. Now it seems he is going out of his way to let me know that he does not want to look at me or want me in his space. For example: He walks by an area that I sit sometimes and he walked by, but on his return he went around the other way, that is fine. He then began to get loud talking to other co-workers near me, so that I will know that he went around the other way. If he sees me coming he will turn around and walk the other way. I have no problem passing him and I am not going to alter my route just because he is there. He is really going out of his way to show me that he is not interested.

I guess what pisses me off is the fact that he acts like I have been bothering him in some way and he is just tired of me and wants to be rid of me. Okay, I got his message no need to rub it in and besides that I never bothered him in the first place.

What is his problem? No need to turn hateful.

[Missladyt_17]

I agree, I do not think that she would want the same as you, due to the fact that she has children. She will be looking for a positive influence for her children and what you are wanting does not do that. Leave her be and find someone else. You do not like kids, so do not start something that you do not intend to finish.

Your motivates seem pretty selfish to me, it is about what you what and not her. Please leave her alone, you have nothing to offer this young lady.

[Missladyt_17]

Yes…..You are letting her call all the shots. You are getting all these signs as to her attitude and you see the red flags yet you still head down the same path. Since you both have expressed your feelings for one another. I would have a talk with her and tell her the truth. It seems like you only spend time with me because you are bored, you go out every weekend, just tell her.

Then what you need to do is stop waiting around and make your own plans. If you ask her on a date, pick her up and go on a date, if she has other plans then you make other plans as well, but if she cares for you as you say then it seems that she would be spending most of her time with you.

I think you already know where this is headed. The question is: What are you going to do about it? Stay and keep things as they are or start living your own life and stop being the yes man.

[Missladyt_17]

Hi,

I think your biggest mistake is your asking her to come and work for you.I think the working together will pose a problem for you guys in the future due to your relationship. I already see red flags due to her situation, she is not ready to jump back into another relationship it is to soon. She has already told you what she wants and you seem to be ignoring that fact. I think she should find employment someplace else because you are going to get hurt in this process. You want something more than she is able to give at this time.

I do not doubt that the chemistry is there along with the passion but please do not cross that line at this time and there is nothing wrong in remaining friends at this time. If you cross that line then be ready to deal with what happens next. Just remember that it is a little to soon for this young lady. I think if you give her space and time you guys could have some type of relationship in the future.

[Missladyt_17]

In all honesty April, it is really hard for him to speak to me due to my position in the company. I am in charge of 8 to 9 programs at my company and I make a six figure salary. I can see where he is a little intimidated and it is very, very difficult to approach me due to so many people around all the time. Under different circumstances, maybe. I am almost sure he is afraid of rejection or feels that I am out of his league.

I tell you what, he watches my every move when he can and if I am joking around with my friends, he finds a way to make his presence known. It is kind of funny because I really, really thought about going up to him and just telling him a little about myself. I will do anything to get him to stop staring at me. He is trying to stop, but he is not doing a good job and he is afraid that someone may see him, so he is working on it. I must say he is quite a handsome fellow.

[Missladyt_17]

Honey, do not get upset with me because you spread your legs and the guy does not want you. You are the lonely one and I am not judging you. My comment has nothing to do with religion. I just think you sold yourself short. Just remember the next time you open your legs, make sure the guy cares for you as well. Friends with benefits never work. I tell you this because I have been in your shoes and I do not want to see you end up being hurt.

I am sorry that you felt you had to resort to name calling, that is something that I do not do.

Good luck to you Sweetie!!!!

[Missladyt_17]

Please excuse me, but WHY,WHY???? Did you have sex with him. You toss losing your virginity around like it was nothing, so if you toss it around like it is nothing, do not expect anything back but nothing. I applaud you for waiting and I think you should have at least waited to give it to someone that really wanted a relationship with you. Sex is not just sex for women, we become attached very easily and by that being your first time. I am sure your emotions are all over the place. I do not think I would have had your attitude if that were me. I would have treated my body with more respect than that. I hope you do not expect for your friend to have a relationship with you because it is not going to happen.

You did not respect yourself, so do not expect for him to come leaping in your arms,[b] AIN’T [/b]going to happen, sorry. You really did yourself an injustice and the sad part is that you do not even realize it. Do yourself a favor and start showing some pride and respect about yourself, maybe and then maybe your friend may see you differently. I would suggest you stop having sex with him and find a nice guy that wants you and only you. If you have to keep asking someone over and over how they feel about you, that should tell you something.

You really messed up throwing your virginity around like it was nothing, so you should expect nothing. SORRY!!!

[Missladyt_17]

Sweetie, it is time for you to move on and how he felt or if he ever felt for you is unimportant. You cannot make someone love you or stay with you. He is doing what is best for him and it seems that he was trying to be honest with you. Why don’t you focus on what is best for you. Yes, he was your man, but he is not the only man in this world. Deal with the breakup and move forward, you will find someone that will love you and that love will be returned by you.

Move forward and be happy. Life is just to short for what ifs and why nots.

[Missladyt_17]

I feel for you and I have felt the same way for I had broken up with a guy and it took me over 6 months to get over him. I cried, I hurt, and you name it. All that I can tell you is to get out and do something that you enjoy. Instead of trying to find your true love, why not find a friend. Do not put so much emphasis on finding a love connection right away. Just go on the date and just try to enjoy her company. Try using the online sites again and see what happens.There are plenty of nice women out there for you.

Maybe you can get a dog, they are good companions. In the meantime, go to the gym and workout that helps a lot. Start working out everyday, instead of going straight home stop at the gym and workout. Just try and find other interest that you enjoy. I would not recommend that you contact your ex, that will only bring you pain, for it seems that she has moved on.

Be a strong confident man and enjoy the person that you are. Do not hold your head down any longer and do not change your values for anyone, you are who you are. Embrace that and move forward, you will find someone that will love and cherish you for you. In the meantime, I wish you good luck and All the joy and happiness this life will bring to you.

[Missladyt_17]

Go for what? No way, this girl is loose and although she may spend time with you, believe me it will not only be you. Please do not reveal your feelings because she will use it as power over you. Your time together has been rather iffy at most. I am not saying that you should not try to date her, but I would not reveal my feelings until she shows that she wants to be with you and only you. Listen to what your friends have told you. BE CAREFUL!!!!

Just because you reveal your feelings to this young lady means that she will come running to you, sometimes it pushes people away. Please think long and hard before you do this. She does not seem to want to be in a relationship, but she does want to keep you on a string and I see you are still dangling on that string. Do not be afraid to date other women, you may be surprised.

[Missladyt_17]

Hi,

I understand your dilemma, but it is better that you remove yourself from her presence for awhile. You cannot solve all of her problems and you being a shoulder to cry on only hurts you because you will be given false hope. Yes, she will lean on you if you are there, but I feel you will be greatly in for a disappointment. There are support groups in which she can join which can provide support for her. You can not save her my friend.

I beg you to back off for awhile to get your emotions in check, maybe after some time has passed you can be friends, but not now. You are really in for a world of hurt if you continue on this path. She will use you, now this may not be her intention, but this is the way it will play out.

Please, please stay away for now and deal with your emotions of the breakup. 🙂

[Missladyt_17]

Kind of hard to flirt when he tries to avoid me now because it is very clear that he does not want me to know how interested he is. When I come around he gets so nervous and he tries his best not to look my way. Flirting with him is out of the question, I think he has read my negativity toward him. I did everything I could to let him know I was interested. I smiled at him, I looked him straight in the eyes when he looked at me, not sure there is much more to do than that. I have just decided to move on, I do not see him asking me on a date or anything else.

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