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[carac]

Thank you for your response…and the health information. Since that day, I have learned more about it. I realize I may have been exposed already, and just haven’t displayed any symptoms.
I don’t know how to get in touch with him…but hopefully will run into him someday!

Thanks again!

[carac]

Hi snowbird,

It’s funny. I posted a similar question on this website also. I also like someone and he seems to have all the qualities (not just looks) I am looking for in a man. In my case, I don’t know the guy I like as much as you know this guy you are interested in. I never received a reply to my situation, so I felt I should reply to your question to give you some advice.
I know I have been so tempted to ask out the guy I know, so I know EXACTLY how you feel. I hear so much about the “dating rules” and it makes me hesitant to ask out a man. “The Rules” state that a woman should never approach a man, nor ask a man out. I feel that it should depend on the situation. If the guy is an attractive, conceited, obnoxious guy who would knock down a woman, then I believe the woman should not ask the man out. BUT, if it is a nice, shy man like the guy you like, then I believe sometimes the woman needs to take the initiative and ask him out. What do you have to lose? He might say no, BUT he may be interested in you, but he may be afraid to be shot down by you. I have been told by several men, that men have a fear of rejection. I believe this to be true of nice guys, who are genuine and good people.

In your situation, at least you have gotten to know this man, and you know he is a good person. In my situation, the guy I like also is getting over someone. Its tough though, because both him and her are members of my gym, and I see what is going on between them. This girl is stringing this guy along, but doesn’t want to be with him.

I say GO FOR IT! Ask him out, and help him get out of this situation with this other girl who is playing games with him. I do not like people who play games. These type of people hold people back from meeting other people who are really interested in them.

I hope my advice has helped you….Good Luck!!

Cara

[carac]

Hi April,

I need some advice. I am interested in a guy at my gym. He was in a relationship with a girl and it appears to have ended months ago. She goes there also, but I notice they don’t even speak to each other anymore.
When is the right time to approach someone after they breakup with someone?
It appears to me, that she is over him because she ignores him. I am not sure if he is over her, because I notice how he looks at her when she is there.

He is the kind of guy that only had eyes for her. I never saw him speak to another girl nor have I seen him look at any girls in interest. So it makes it hard to determine if he is over her.

I heard from someone else she is already seeing someone else.

I have read many advice columns that say women shouldn’t approach men. Men should approach women. It is against “The Rules of Dating”.
I can tell this guy is different from other guys. He seems like a nice guy. He doesn’t flirt or hit on the women in the gym like most of the other guys there.
Should I wait to see if he notices me?What should I do if anything?

Thanks,
CaraC

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