I just read this article and thought it funny because it has been my experience that the “Cocky Guy” thing goes both ways.
I’m what my guy and girl friends call a “nice bitch”. I am not afraid to tell a man what I think right from the get-go. I am attractive, (look 26 but I’m 38), and get hit on everywhere by every man 19-55 years old…the grocery store, the pool, blockbuster, the gas station, picking up my laundry or just hanging out with friends. When I meet a man the first thing I let him know is that I’m not looking for a man. I’m a single mom, with two boys and they are my focus. Everything else is secondary. I don’t have the time to “feed a man’s ego” by telling them how great they are or do whatever I need to do to get their attention. I’m blunt and honest and it just kills me that these traits of mine “attract” men more than anything! I think it is just like you said for men, I project confidence and I don’t appear needy. If a guy calls me great, if he doesn’t, no biggy…I’ll meet another guy. I am confident yes, but most importantly, I’m happy with my life, which doesn’t include a man!
I don’t meet many men like me….they are ALL NICE GUYS! They all want to give me money, buy me things, take me out and spoil me. But unfortunately for them, none of that does anything for me. I have my OWN money, I buy my OWN things, I SPOIL MYSELF! The guys that I am attracted to are the ones that respect my space, understand they will never be the most important thing in my life (because my kids are….although the man would be treated well), and the ones that don’t hoover around all the time waiting for a minute of my time. Plus, I don’t NEED a man, and I think that is where many women fall short….chasing after a guy makes one look desperate and weak….just like the Nice Guys in your article.
I liked your article alot, but PLEASE do one on women like ME! We are out there….fun, happy, satisfied gals with no need to have a man up under them all the time. Because honestly, I have two kids…I’m not looking for a third person to take care of! If more women were like me, I believe they’ld be too busy living their lives instead of waiting on someone to validate them.
Thank you for letting me contribute my opinion. I’m glad I found April! She’s right on the money!!!
Sincerely,
Nicole Altamirano
