Dear April,
I cannot thank you enough for taking the time out to help me. We are not yet fully convinced ourselves that reunification will happen. We feel that it would be best of course to have our family back together but we are fully aware that we must deal with the issues that caused him to have an affair to begin with. Although when we first seperated it seemed like we were at war, we have learned to forgive and have a great relationship now but it wasn’t without a lot of work and heartache. Although we talk about it, we are not intimate at all and we do live seperate lives when we aren’t doing things together with the kids. We are trying to be very cautious not to jump the gun because our kids feelings are at stake. We do spend time alone together talking almost daily. Yesterday we were talking about this issue and he told me that when we were married he felt guilty when we had sex. The guilt was greater if I were doing things to him that he as a child was forced to do to his violator. He said he did not feel this guilt when he cheated on me with a “trashy” woman. He said that as we had children and more children the more he drew a line between love and sex. Talking about it seems to be drawing us closer together however if we can’t have sex, we can’t get back together. I will definatley join your Facebook group.
Thanks again,
Paula
