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ThinkingRight
ParticipantThis is the real life version of Indecent Proposal, the film with Demi Moore and Robert Redford. You opened the door to your wife being an escort (aka high priced hooker) because you both wanted the money and you were both willing to sacrifice monogamy in your marriage for the money. Now you are stuck dealing with the fall out. It’s very sad.
😥 February 3, 2011 at 7:17 pm in reply to: Why would he do this to me? How to get over the anger #19273Participantyeah, uh, recognize this: [i]“Couple more months past, no return letter. Or messages. I’d call once or twice but he never answered. But it turns out he was around anyway and just didn’t respond as i found out later. When he came back he didn’t contact me either, so I finally found the courage to not just contact him through web and things (cuz he wasn’t answering) but call him instead (1st time in a while. When i called he said he was out, “with someone” and would call me back later. He called back and said “i’m only calling you back because you wanted me to”.[/i] it seems not only do you not remember your subject title (How to get over the anger) as Dale pointed out, you can’t remember your post either.
you’re a real genius.
toocute, you are absolutely right…. i’m done wasting my time on jaga — the charming, lovely lady that she is.
😉 everyone who reads this can see why she’s a real man magnet!
😀 February 3, 2011 at 6:47 pm in reply to: Why would he do this to me? How to get over the anger #19270Participantyou mean exactly why YOU’RE on a self help forum in the first place, don’t you? 😮 i didn’t come here seeking april’s advice about a guy who dumped my ass — you did. and boy oh boy, it’s such a big mystery why he stopped calling you!
😆 February 3, 2011 at 6:24 pm in reply to: Why would he do this to me? How to get over the anger #17718ParticipantDale my friend, don’t waste your time on this sicko. Take a tip from the guy she was asking for free advice about — the only thing to do with a woman like this is ignore her. She is one ANGRY BITCH
😡 😡 😡 who needs more help than anyone here should take the time to give her.April, I hope you ignore her too. She’s an ANGRY sicko bitch
👿 👿 👿 who doesn’t deserve your time or to be a member of this site.I hope your moderator blocks her.
😀 ParticipantSorry, but i have to disagree with alyssa. i don’t think the guy did anything wrong. i’m sorry that your feelings got hurt and your heart was broken acp12, but by your own admission, “ [b]h[u]e broke off the relationship[/u] [/b] “.Also, you said for “the past 2 and a half years we’ve been talking on and off”, you had “skype dates
[b][u]every once in a while. But we aren’t official, he wouldn’t make it official[/u] [/b] .”The guy was not your boyfriend and he was very clear and honest about not wanting a commitment. Just because you wanted an “official”, exclusive relationship doesn’t make it so. I’m sorry… I don’t like to see anyone get hurt, but in my opinion — you hurt yourself by staying involved with a guy that clearly did not want the same thing you did.
He was very honest and direct about what he wanted and what he did not want. I have to say I think he’s done nothing wrong. I do not think someone can be considered a cheater when there is not an exclusive relationship.
August 28, 2010 at 4:47 pm in reply to: I think she likes me but she has a boyfriend, HELP!!!! #15220Participantif i were april i’d stop answering your questions. you want her to spend her time answering your questions for free and you don’t want to buy her book for less than 20 bucks? 🙄 i think she should answer the questions of those of us (LIKE ME!) who
[b][u]have[/u] [/b] bought her book and stop spending so much time on people like you. why don’t you let someone else ask some questions for a change and stop occupying the board?❗ ❗ ❗ ParticipantI’m sorry this has happened to you and that you’re so hurt. 🙁 Unfortunately, I’m not the least bit surprised by her reaction — she needs your to help her get her son and to help pay the legal bills and to pay half the rent (among other things). She’s been sleeping with your friend behind your back (don’t kid yourself into thinking they were “just playing” — that’s total BS and you know it!) and she’s been (and still is) lying to your face.
Wake up!
😮 You have seen all of the evidence with your own eyes. You know what they’ve been doing. Your instincts told you and then your eyes saw the evidence. Words can lie, actions never do. Base your decisions on what you have seen and don’t let her words cloud your judgement. You know the truth. If you decide to stay with her after discovering all of this, ignoring what you found — you are doing so with your eyes wide open.
😯 I hope you find the strength to extricate yourself from this woman while you still can.
🙂 If you don’t, please don’t be surprised when she winds up pregnant so that she can lock in child support payments from you to pay her rent… and then you find out she never stopped cheating. Sorry, but that’s the kind of woman you are dealing with. She’s a user. She’s been using you, and she will continue to use you as long as you let her.😐 Good luck!
ParticipantShe’s a liar, a cheat and terrible role model for her son — and she doesn’t deserve you! 👿 You sound like a GREAT guy, even in what must be an incredibly painful situation.😥 I’m sorry that this happened to you. The only good news is that you didn’t marry her and can get away.
I say confront her and no matter what she says or what excuse she gives — RUN! A cheat is a cheat is a cheat and they never change. Do NOT give her a second chance no matter what she says or excuse she gives. She has proven to be a liar and you cannot believe a word she says.
😯 I also do NOT think you should pay any of the legal fees. It’s her child and her legal battle — not yours. While you were acting like a great boyfriend (to say nothing of assuming the responsibility of being a step-dad) she was acting as if she didn’t even have a boyfriend (except when it came to using you and your money to get custody).
👿 Drop her. Drop the legal bills. And get away from her ASAP!
YOU DESERVE A LOT BETTER!!!!!!
😀 😀 😀 ParticipantYou seem to have recognized you have a real problem. Good, although you will continue to repeat this behavior until you get professional help or end up in jail. Look at what trouble you have already caused yourself. It will only get worse. This is crazy behavior, you MUST STOP NOW!! Cowboy up, stop being a little whiner and be a responsible loving caring man. And please get professional help and stay away from this girl before you hurt her and end up in state prison. Take my word for it, state prison is no fun. ParticipantI agree with Kai. Give the guy another chance, he was probably nervous and trying to impress you. Unfortunately for him it had the opposite affect, but don’t kick him to the curb without first giving him a chance to redeem himself. ParticipantWell, this girlfriend of yours doesn’t seem to care as much about your feelings as she does her “friends”. Also, based upon what you’ve described, it sounds like she might be in love with this so-called “best friend” of hers. My recommendation would be to put your foot down about how you want both you and your relationship to be treated. If you don’t stand up for yourself – she’s not going to change her behavior towards you. The only problem with this is the only thing you have to “negotiate” with is you. Meaning you have to be willing to walk away and say good-bye to her if she refuses to alter the behavior and start treating you and your relationship with the respect deserved.
On the other hand, if she does not value you enough to do that, you might want to question why you would be with someone who doesn’t value you or your feelings.
😉 ParticipantI think you should ask him directly if he still wants you to move in and if he says yes, you take the initiative and start cleaning out and organizing the room. If he stops you, you have your answer, if he doesn’t stop you, you also have your answer. Either way, you’ll know. If both of you keep waiting for the other to say something or do something you will continue to be in limbo.
Bite the bullet and get an answer.
ParticipantAs a guy I strongly recommend that you [b][i]do not[/i] [/b] say anything to thing guy if you are sincere about wanting to establish something meaningful with him. I don’t know of any guy that wants to be with someone everyone else has been with. I’m not saying that you have been with everyone else, but the impression will be that you have sex with anyone and everyone easily if you’re having sex with guys you’re not in a relationship with. Even if this was a one time thing, he’s never gong to believe that. I wouldn’t.On a separate note, guys want to respect their girlfriends. They don’t have serious relationships with girls they do not respect. If you want this guy or any guy for that matter to respect you — respect yourself.
I can’t imagine why you would have sex with some guy you’re not interested in when you’re interested in someone else, especially in a small town where you know that everyone is going to talk and the guy you
[i][b]say[/b] [/i] you like is very likely to find out. Weird stuff!May 24, 2009 at 9:15 pm in reply to: What should I do? (Stuck with question: does he like me?) #9205ParticipantGuys (especially young guys) tease girls like he’s doing to you when they really like a girl because they don’t know how else to get their attention and interact. My guess is that he likes you and instead of coming straight out and telling him how you feel — start teasing him back instead. The next time he teases you about failing a test — ask him if he’s looking for a job as your tutor?
When he teases you about your height say something like, well even Shaq (Shaquille O’Neal), who can have any tall model he wants, picked a petite girl because he knows that petite girls are the hottest! He’s 7′ 1″ and his wife is only 5’3″!
You get the idea….
ParticipantWatch out! My wife was doing something very similar and I thought i could trust her — I couldn’t and shouldn’t have. I even told my divorce attorney “she doesn’t lie”. Turns out she does lie and about everything. Worse as it turns out she was having affairs left and right. Your wife is a married woman and she needs to act like a married woman. She’s not. She’s acting like she’s still single — and if she’s not cheated yet… she will (if she continues down this path).
I don’t buy the excuse for why she’s checking on ex-boyfiends and I don’t understand how a newly married woman has trouble telling her devoted husband that she loves him.
My question is — why did she marry you?
Watch out! And start standing up for yourself. What’s she’s doing is NOT right. If she threatens to divorce you because you don’t want her hanging at at bars and acting like she’s single, perhaps she really should be single. This is not a description of a good wife.
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[u]Don’t you think you deserve better?[/u] [/b] PS – whatever you do DO NOT HAVE KIDS with this woman unless she drastically changes her behavior. That would be a disaster!
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