jonathan

[jonathan]

Whoa! this is wild. jaga, why on earth are you attacking April like that? I read the entire thread and do not see anywhere she has been rude or cruel to you. i really dont. I do see the hurt you are feeling and I feel terribly for anyone who has gone through what you have. it’s awful. im sorry that idiot you were dating hurt you so badly and i am sure youve learned your lesson and hopefully wont let it happen again. i went out with a piece of garage myself and it took me months to get over, so i feel your pain. but ive got to tell you, i really think your getting angry and lashing out at april is misplaced.

april has helped me a ton and a lot of other people. and she donates all of her time on here helping people for free. i do not know of anyone else who does everything she does and doesnt ask for any money. i think even if you don’t like her advice you might appreciate that she gave you a place to find advice that you did like from the other posters.

the first time i posted here i didn’t like what she told me either and i was mad too and i quit the site. then about a month later i realized what she had said was right and i rejoined. i think you might look back at your posts and her responses and see that too.

this is a great community. yes some posters are immature but for the most part we are all here trying to get help and have better relationships.

i wish you good luck and happiness jaga

[jonathan]

nice article! i really enjoyed it… 😀

[jonathan]

Say it isn’t so… “she seems sincere that nothing happened and they were only joking” ??? 😮

PLEASE tell me you’re not buying her crap — again! 🙄

I agree with the previous poster. You’re eyes have been opened to the truth. It is your decision if you want to just ignore it or not.

There’s a saying “when you lay down with the devil don’t be surprised when you wake up in hell” and if you ignore the facts you’re accepting the lies and the cheating and asking for a life of hell.

I hope you’ll come to your senses but if not — be careful.

[jonathan]

What caused me to say what I said was the 2nd paragraph of your 1st post and specifically, the 1st sentence in the paragraph. I have copied it below for you to reread. You clearly said, “I just happen to be his boss also”.

When you read this paragraph there leaves no doubt that you were coming on like a freight train. All I can say is that if I did that to one of the girls that works for me, I’d be fired and could be brought up on sexual harassment charges. Granted most guys would never do that because they’d look like a wuss. But there is no question that if I take this paragraph at face value you’re sexually harrasing him because he keeps declining your VERY OVERT sexual advances and you continue to pursue him sexually. He’s probably just trying to be friendly and on good terms with you and you keep taking that as sexual interest. (Just my opinion.) 🙂

Here’s what you wrote:

“I work with a guy who is 10 years my junior and I just happen to be his boss also. We get along well at work and at the Xmas party last year we hooked up and ended up making out in the back of a cab we shared (which he inisited on paying for). I invited him back to my place and he declined but promised me another time for sure. The next day when we spoke about it, he said it would be better if we remained friends as he didn’t want a relationship. I told him that I also wasn’t looking for a relationship and bluntly told him that I was attracted to him and obviously wanted to sleep with him. We continued to flirt here and there and on my birthday, a month later, we all went out and after a few drinks I asked him back to my place. He again declined because he had something important to do early the next morning (which actually turned out to be true as I thought he was blowing me off). We left it at that and on some occassions we would text one another raunchy messages about what we would do to one another when we finally get the chance (texts always initiated by him).”

[jonathan]

ever see the movie Disclosure with demi moore and michael douglas? if not, rent it. with the exception of the age difference being in reverse, it’s your situation. i agree with april. you’re his boss and you’re treading on thin ice.

your friend tried to sleep with him and now you? sounds like every one is trying to have a one-night stand with this guy. on the one hand i’d love to be in his shoes, 😉 but on the other i feel bad for him because he is repeatedly being sexually harassed at work. 😥

have some self respect, and if you can’t do that, stop breaking the law! 😮

[jonathan]

no one is perfect and based upon what you’ve said about her son (and your willingness to help) shows that you’re way too good for this tramp. she’s using you. she’s lying to you. she’s sleeping with your friend (who is NOT a friend btw!) and she’s able to do all of this with zero guilt.

drop the slut and say good riddance!

[jonathan]

sounds like sluts.

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