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Ohh… He said hello yesterday night whn i was walking… And talked to me too… And he sounded really happy…

I think he was afraid at first but now he is opening up slowly… 😀

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Hey April,
Day before, i got a chance to talk to him and i grabbed it. He came home alone and whn he saw me walking, he looked at me and i smiled… Den hecrossed me thrice and was continuously smiling. I reached out and i dont knw wht happened dat he was scared… And said “no no i wasnt doing anything wrong and dont get me wrong”… Den whn i started talking he calmed himself and asked me where do i live here and i asked his name and he asked mine… Den he left saying “ok bye… Tk cr”

It was a normal talk for abt 2 min and no flirting… Today whn he saw me, he started his car and left… Dat was so weird… I still remember i didnt said anything bad dat day.. Y is he reacting like dis…? Will he come bck to talk to me again…? What do u think and suggest me…?

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Hey april,
Thanks for ur help in my last relationship… I came out of dat abusive one…

But now, i have a crush on a guy who lives in my apartment… But my problem is dat he comes out of his house only once when he goes to office. And i try my best to come in front of him dat time… But he always comes out wid some one or d other… I can’t talk to him whn he is always wid someone… I have no idea whn he comes bck… I cant keep an eye on him everytime…

He also showed his interest in me last week… Whn he turned his car twice to cross me and smiled everytime (he was alonedat day)… But i was unaware dat time dat he is also interested… Please tell me wht should i do to talk to him…i really want to talk to him and i go daily… But my badluck he always is wid some other person… I am very reserved and i never show dat i m waiting to talk to him… I always look busy wid my phn… But i really want ro talk to him and waiting dat he comes alone… Should i keep trying daily and wait for a day he comes out alone…? Or is dere any other way…?

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Yeah definitely u r rite.. But d questions dat keeps coming to my head are

1) why is he saying dat he loves me when he dont want to commit?
2) y he said dat he will marry me whn i m going thru a divorce phase? Its not a joke. Its already a very rough time for me and he is hurting me continuously.
3) he was d one who keeps coming to me and whn i went to meet him once, y d hell he told his liar mom dat i m after him and disturbing him. Y he lied about me to his mom and she started shouting on me like mad.
4) now, he don’t even look at me. He is living his life… Flirting etc and i m living in a mess going thru all dis and he left me all alone.

Wht makes it more difficult for me is dat he lives rite here in this society just a building away. And my love for him is pure and true. I was always honest. Dont knw whether he ever will underatand my worth. Dis makes it really difficult for me

April, i knw i must be irritating u by my questions over n over but plz understand me. My world collapsed whn he dumped me and i saw him happy after leaving me.

Thanku so much.

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Hi April,
Sorry for such a long post, first of all.
My bf was nvr a committed one. But when i told him abt my divorce is sure, he became very excited and said that ok, i m ready to accept you now. And i love u a lot. At dat time he was in different city for a job and btw, he LEFT me dat time for dat job. Its just dat he used to call me once a month aa if he is still dere. Ok… so, whn i told him abt divorce, he said above mentioned and gave me a green signal for marriage. I was going thru a very difficult phase of my life and dat too… Alone. He said that he anyways dont want to stay wid his parents bcoz they dont connect wid each other. He accepted me.

But just after a wk, he said he is not going to marry me and m already married ans stuff like dat. I requested him not to do dis bcoZ i was already shattered and was alone and hurt. He too was in different city but he called me characterless and disconnected. Den after a month he called up and abused me verbally, disconnected. It happened like almost for 6 months… All those abuses.

Den after total 9 months he came bck all of a sudden and said m back for u. He lost his job dere. And now working here currently. But still he refused to marry me. He still used to verbally abused me on phn.
I was so hurt dat i changed my number and whn he came to knw dat, he came to my house unannounced and startes shouting dat m having an affair elsewhere dats y i changed my number. Which was not true. He was d only one in my life. But no use.

He used to come to house 2wice eveey month (unannounced) to chk my phn and house whether someonez dere or not and he nvr found anything or anyone. Called me characterless etc agn. And left. Den he agn came but i refused to let him in. Den after a wk i saw him flirting wid someone but he refused to accept. I went to his house to ask but he didnt gv me any answer.

Den he came after a day to say that he is not having any affair and i m misunderstanding him. Den he left. But i seriously dont knw wht happened to him bcoz he told his mom dat i m spoiling his life and is after him. I m not leaving him alone. He even told her dat i came to his house to ask abt affair. His mom insulted me like anything on a middle of d road dat stop running after my son. Its all ur fault and not his bcoz HE IS A BOY AND U R GIRL. If he has given a chance, he will do everything bcoz he is a BOY. Its ur responsibility to stop him. U r characterless etc etc. I said its not all my fault, he used to come to my house and he called him up and said dat she is blaming everything on u. I said y r u lying, i didnt said it. I walked out frm dere. and she kept shouting dat i will kill u if i see u agn.
All dis time he nvr came to talk and changed his number too. He blamed everyrhing on me. i hv no words how cheap he is and what he has done to me. He lied to his mom and ahw also blamed me for evwrything. I saw him ystrday while he was going to office and he was hiding at first whn he saw me but widin a minute he came and crossed me. I nvr stopped him even whn he was looking at me.

One of my fren knws abt it and he felt insulted whn he came to knw. But wht do i do, m so alone i need someone to talk to….

I m soooo hurt by all d abv dat i cant just stop crying. We live in a same society its impossible to ignore.
Oh and btw, he left me 4 timea b4 too. But alwz came bck. But dis time, he inaulted me like hell and his mom too did d same.

Her mom is a big liar. She lies abt everything. She must have said.all d lies abt me to him like she is blaming u for everything, she insulted me also etc etc. However he knws dat she alwaya lie but he will believe everything ahw wud hv said against me. I donno what exactly was said abt me, but 200% sure she said lied against me juat to make him feel how bad i m and how i m putting everything on him. But the truth is dat they r d one who blamed everuthing on me.

Please tell me what do i do now. M not abke to forget anything he did to me one after d other. And den he blamed eveeything on me. Please.

And our relation is 4 yrs old and i m 32 and he is 30. If this can help. M just not able to forget him and whatever he did to me one after other. M so hurt dat i think words cant explain. M sorry for auch a long post.
Thanku

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Forgot to tell u dat hia mom a very liar. She lies abt everything. She must hv tols him dat ahw blamed evrything on u and she said its all ur fault. U came to her house. U did wrong to her etc.

Even whn he knws dat her nom lie a lot, he will believe it. I knw. I dont what lies his mom told him.

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I just saw that he is still not back. He is still out of city with his uncle. He sent me those msgs frm his house. 🙁

Plz guide me how to tell him that i m extremely upset “without saying anything at all”. However, he himself knws the reason as why i m not responding. I m dead sure he knws everything abt my anger towards him but always pretend as if he doesnt knw.

Everytime i was upset, i argued, i shouted. But this time i want him to face my silence. By my previous posts, u can re read what i hv gone thru. Apart frm all that, he has cancelled every plan on me and dis time he is out fr 2wks after cancelling ny plan agn.

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Its been 9 days, he is out. However, 2 days back he had sent me 4 msgs. Those were:-
Msg 1: what r u doing
Msg2: r u asleep
Msg3: talk to me
Msg 4: i m really really missing u. Talk to me please.

I really wanted to reply but keeping in mind that he cancelled every single plan of me frm so long and i m damn angry, i didnt replied. I have no idea whether he z back or still out (as he told me he is going fr 2 wks.). Aftr dat i didnt heard anything.

Who m i fooling??? I love and miss him so much dat i want to talk to him agn but only after he apologise to me sincerely.

We live in a same area, just 2 buildings away. I can see his cars and bike parked here.

M crying every single day for him. It hurts too much.

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He himself knws how deeply i love him. Every time he left me or insulted me, i forgave him and went bck to him as if nothing happened.
But whn i said i will leave him and he said ystrdy that go leave and i wont come back to u, i was hurt. As if i was nothing. he nvr fought for me. Will he ever regret what he has lost after losing me?

I m 31 and he is 29. If dis can help.

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Thanks for a reply dear… I also feel the same. But after few days he says that he loves me a lot and i cant live without u, u r very sweet n simple girl and i want dis relation, i knw i cancel ur every plan which is not right. Which confuses me a lot. Sometime he apologises to me too.

Plz tell me what to do if he again says all dat sweet stuff.

I m too broke. I love him very much. But he nvr understood me and my love for him.

April thanks for ur valuable advice.

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Thanks for a reply dear… I
feel d same. But den after some days, he comes bck saying that he loves me very much, cant live widout me and stuff, which confuses me a lot. He also says that he knws he cancells my every plan and he knws dis is not right and i m a very sweet n simple person and he wants dis relation. Sometimes he apologises to me too. But then he starts all of his wierd behaviour.

I m so broke now. I love him so much (and he knws it very well). He nvt understood me and my love for him. But yes u r indeed right.

Thanks for ur valuable reply April.

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