footballpro87

[footballpro87]

April, thanks and even if you are wrong…you’re to credit! LOL You have helped me realize the reality of the situation and I took the pain straight up and feel 10 times more confident because of it. Perhaps even enough confidence to re-attract her.

Now I have an update…

To put things into context.. like I said on Friday I get this random text message from her. Then I look at her facebook page and it has lyrics about young love, missing someone and about how the words “I said to her tore through her look a bullet” ..yadi yadi ya…

Also her facebook status had to do with watching hockey (which I made her become a fan of lol) and her fantasy team! I may be the only one of her friends on facebook that would even remotely care about that. Maybe I’m crazy but it seems like she’s trying to reach out to me without reaching out to me.

Then Sunday (real late) I put some stupid joke on my facebook and the girl liked it on facebook! I am not mad at her but it’s crazy because she acted like I was dead for the past 6 weeks and now my jokes are funny again.

So I texted her with a joke referencing the joke I made on facebook lol.. and I also told her that a band she likes is coming around. thought you’d be interested. She texted me back at 12:30 am saying ‘lol yeah I thought it was funny and then she said I heard they were playing..I said thanks and I knew you liked them.. end of convo

So this is the way I see it

A) Like What you said – After a 4 year relationship, she’s over me in 5 weeks and just wants to be on friendly terms.

B) She’s confused, maybe lonely, and misses me. Doesn’t necessarily want to date me now though

C) She’s so stubborn and shy (which she is) that she won’t initiate conversation but wants to hint to me that she would like to and see what happens

I know you told me to ask her out but I figured maybe some additional information could change your mind. Also, after coming off a four year relationship and knowing how hurt she was I don’t want to take things too fast and reopen any wounds. Does the advice remain the same or should I try to initiate more conversation with her? Maybe try calling her? Thanks again April!

[footballpro87]

Ok I have an update, sort of. She texted me yesterday. It may have been an accident but even if it was she still responded back and it was the first time she acknoweldged that I am still alive.

She texted me 2 pictures of her sister casually watching tv, nothing too intriguing about that. Kind of weird she would take those pictures with someone she lives with anyway. So I responded ” I assume that message wasn’t meant for me lol” and she said “Lol yeah sorry”. I responded back “Well make sure it never happens again .. (kidding) ” she said Lol ok. Now I know it’s not much but she joked with me

Some of my friends said that it was no accident and that she was testing the waters. It makes sense because she never accidently texted me in the 4 years we were together. She’s got one of those smartphones, it’s a bit of a process to send a picture message.

If this wasn’t an accident, it’s clear she wants me to do the work. I know it’s impossible to read into this but is this a sign that I try to reach out to her again sometime real soon?

[footballpro87]

Thanks for the honest response but, after 4 years she couldn’t have already have fallen out of love with me could she? If she still has feelings there still is hope, no? There’s really nothing you think I could do?

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