So essentially, I should just leave her?
[b][u]WE FOUND OUT THE PROBLEM![/u][/b]
We recently talked about it. And really came down to the issue. Basically, she has a fixation. She tends to care TOO much about other people. To the point where she puts OTHERS on top of ME.
Let me show you:
Hooking up: she wont because she thinks others might find it too sexual and it bothers her
The dress: She thinks its too open for others
Piggytails: She thinks it makes her look a lot younger, and by that she thinks others will think im dating someone too young
Her EX: She kept takling to him while dating him, and somewhat led him on because she wanted to make him feel better after leaving him. She was worried how he felt. HOW SOMEONE ELSE felt, rather than focusing on her current boyfriend
MSN: She split her attention the other day to help a cheating ex who was depressed.
Facebook: We recently argued over a setting i would like on her facebook, that she did not want to put on because OTHERS might find it annoying
Train: She makes me change positions, talk differently, keep to certain arguments because OTHERS might find it disturbing.
Public: She turned quiet and snaps at me when im overly loud, kid too much, or might point out a person because OTHERS might see it and think badly
Until i was just a hookup, or the guy she was seeing but not dating, I WAS ONE OF THE OTHERS. Hence, we connected and she acted NORMALLY. Then when we went official she changed completely. Her process of treating others, and treating her boyfriend doesnt need to change, just simply REVERSED. She is treating others like she should treat ME. THEIR OPINIONS, which she doesn’t know for certain but imagines, are valued more than mine. My feelings come after other peoples. People who dont really even care or know she exists.
We figured it out. She understood and acknowledged it. I guess all i can do is give her this last possibility.
What do you think?
