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  • April 24, 2017 at 5:45 pm in reply to: Thinking of her all of a sudden many years later #35658
    straussr48
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    .Checking in again because everything must be perfect. I found a number online but I dont know if this is even her current one. It was listed for her last apartment but it seems shes in a new one… Sometimes people keep the same landline # but I dont know. We don’t have any mutual friends, so that route wouldnt work. I know of them but they would easily side with her and ignore me

    So, (correct me if im wrong) If i reach her I will do my best to sound upbeat. I wil say hi its (my name)… ill tell her I looked her up, and am glad I reached her. Wondering how you are…what do you do for work nowadays…. and invite her to dinner if shes around friday. I’ll keep it short too.
    Question: I sent the last mail thursday. When should I ‘call’ her?
    Thanks

    April 23, 2017 at 9:37 pm in reply to: Thinking of her all of a sudden many years later #35656
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    The problem is I don’t have her number at all. And if I looked up her # online for a possible new apartment shes living in, it may seem like stalking. you know? I dont know…Is there anything else you would do? if theres some other sort of workaround, let me know.
    Thanks

    April 23, 2017 at 8:46 pm in reply to: Thinking of her all of a sudden many years later #35654
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    hi again. I am following up from last week(we were last on the private forum)

    Anyway, to recap, 7 years after the breakup, I sent the ”lets be friends letters”. and facebook request (she rejected).. You told me to say how I REALLY feel. So I sent my grand gesture, the song I wrote about her and email saying all I feel about her, along with asking her to dinner.

    As of now(its been a few days) I havent heard from her still…the song was so good too. I put a LOT into it. I dont know why its so hard to reach her…

    At one point in the other posting, you said ” I think your note to her is good! Now, give the song and letter to her…. and follow up a week later with a concrete invitation to dinner — time, date and place”
    Do you still think I should do that, or do you think I shouldnt send any more mails? I dont want to push her away I trust whatever you say.
    If I do, what exactly should I say in it? how should I structure it…and any other final words to her.. and if you have any more questions for me let me know
    thanks.

    April 18, 2017 at 6:29 am in reply to: Hi straussr48 here again. I posted a question last week. #35636
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    April 17, 2017 at 12:09 pm in reply to: Hi straussr48 here again. I posted a question last week. #35632
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    April 13, 2017 at 4:37 pm in reply to: Thinking of her all of a sudden many years later #35624
    straussr48
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    If I sent flowers they would get ignored because I’ve done that in the past after the breakup. I dont know her address anyway. It’s been so long.
    I just wrote a whole email (didnt send yet) to her saying that facebook shows me that my friend request was denied and that I was a little taked back by it. upset.
    but also I go on to say how beautiful she was having finally seen a pic of her after all these years.
    Im thinking that maybe when I said ‘lets be friends, she thought I perhaps wasnt attracted to her anymore after seeing her facebook. (shes a little heavier now) but obviously it doesnt matter to me! I go on to say how beautiful she looks now and also say that I would be fooling myself if I said I didnt want another shot.
    I also go on to say: please consider that its been 7 years. and people change. Lastly I ask her to dinner.. a fancy dinner. I also said it would be a good chance to finally show her a song I wrote for her. (that could be that extra stretch you were talking about)
    Do you think it would be a huge error to send this right away? Its kind of bugging me that she obviosuly doesnt want friendship and I want closure as much as possible as soon as possible (because Im feeling terrible) But whatever you think. Let me know. Im thinking maybe, just maybe she’d like to know what i really think of her now. Rather than being an ex who just sees her as friends.

    April 13, 2017 at 1:08 pm in reply to: Thinking of her all of a sudden many years later #35621
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    I just noticed she denied my friend request on facebook. (theres a way to tell) And Im so broken about it right now. I feel that I may need to resort to your advice and be straightforward.
    I feel weird about sending the mails last week ..about being friends..and then replying right away about ‘really’ wanting more. How do I go about this?
    I made so many apologies in the past that I feel more would seem too desperate. Ive tried in the past to say I have learned from the past.
    Please contact me asap about this. or if there’s a way to chat in person. Im feeling really broken about it

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