swampdonkey

[swampdonkey]

Hmm. Couple things…why do care about her age and last name at this point? It’s not creepy necessarily, but not necessary, either. You have to realize how many frickin’ dumasses and jerks are out there asking women out. It’s rough for the girls. Respect her privacy. Really. That’s huge. Also, there’s a dirty little secret about dating and relationships, and that is that the girls are always WAY more experienced than they ever let on, and the guys are always WAY less experienced. That’s just the way it is. An attractive girl in her mid-twenties has been around the block. I can nearly GUARANTEE you didn’t blow it with the kiss attempt. If you have your grooming and hygiene right, dress with a little style, and be polite and don’t grab, you could prolly do cartwheels around the bar, and she would just glance around to check for onlookers and calmly stir her drink until you were done, then seamlessly return to normal conversation. That’s been my experience anyway.

If you like her, I recommend remain available for fun. No chasing this borderline flake.

[swampdonkey]

That sounds hideous, bro. I’d be suspicious as a muthah. I’m in a a long-distance relationship, too (she’s 4 hours away) and she has an active social life in her town. So it crosses my mind. Listen, we don’t know what happened, if anything. But based on your account of the communications you exchanged, she’s not being overly careful to keep her storey straight. And that probably means she’s got “other things” on her mind. Does it mean she’s cheating? I wouldn’t assume that. In a similar situation with my girl, I’d text her that I didn’t like her b.s. storey and that I’m irritated and hurt. After that, I would leave the ball in her court to explain things better. I don’t mean go silent (you want to remain available), but keep it short (real short) and polite until she comes up with an explaination you can live with. And for heaven’s sake, have some self-respect and remind yourself she’s not the only chick out there 🙂

[swampdonkey]

with the mutual attraction you described, i would be surprised if he has a big issue with your age or your lying about it. if he has gone “distant” on you following a little blow-up over age (considering you look young enough that he initially believed you), i really, really suspect another player in the game. i would not expect a healthy young man to give up access to intimacy without at least the prospect of being with someone else with whom he feels he’d be more compatible. the language he used (“a lot going through my head” and “need some time”) is frequently what we (men AND women) say when we want time to pursue another relationship. i feel terrible for you. i’m 42 and i’ve been on both sides of this in the last few months. but to put this in perspective a little bit, what is really happening IS NOT that you’re losing the love of your life. you’re just in the game bumping your head. i know for sure 🙂 internet dating has it’s pros and cons, but it’s GREAT for “moving on”. believe me: get on a good email romance and this doosh will be the last thing on your mind 🙂 it’s okay…dip your toe in the pool again 😀

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