I am engaged, and should be getting married this summer. I can’t believe I have to say it, but I’m having doubts. I love him, but we have been having the same argument lately that I can’t get over. My weight/size. I have been exercising and eating better… but shouldn’t he love me no matter what? He brings it up as a “health worry” but I’m not really unhealthy, just not thin. I’m honestly not even what I think most people would call fat. I wear size 3, 5, 7 depending on jeans style, and usually size Small tops, but I do have cup size D, so it depends on that as well. I’m also very short, so curves are more apparent. He has brought up a few times that I’m not the same size as when he proposed last summer… though I don’t know of much of a difference and I’m still wearing the same clothes I was then. Obviously, he is unhappy with how I look or we wouldn’t have this conversation. He wants me to work out harder and lose more weight to make him happy. Is this something that I should just try to do, or should this be a deal breaker? Yes, I complain about my body, too, just like a lot of women, I know. But, I really don’t start to hate myself until he brings it up. It won’t be much of a honeymoon if I’m too ashamed of myself to take my clothes off around him. I don’t really feel like I can talk to anyone about this, because it is humiliating to admit that the man I love feels this way. I also don’t think my family would continue to support us in the same way if they knew what he has said to me. I’m so hurt by it and ashamed, I just don’t know what to do. Should this be a deal breaker? Should I call off the wedding? Am I overreacting? Thank you for reading and helping!
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