Hi. My husband takes his frustration & anger out on me. He was having a rough time w work (he has since changed jobs), and would easily get angry, belittle me… in front of others, swear at me. Any little thing would set him off & sometimes he didn’t make sense (ex: in car together – he’s driving – then he asks me why I was bringing my old ski boots to the ski rental shop. I reply “I’d like to see if I can still use these boots and only rent skis”. His reply “Do you think you can trust them?” my reply “yes”. He then puts his foot all the way on the gas peddle and starts driving like a crazy person & swears at me.. and I don’t even know what I did wrong. Even simple replies, for ex: I say “ok” when he asks me a question. He gets angry and says “It’s either yes or no!”, and if I ever ask for clarification on a question he asks me, he replies “just answer the question!”. If I express that I am sad or hurt by anything, he has responded “you’re too sensitive”. It just kept happening too frequently and getting worse each time – angrier and swearing at me. It finally got to the point where I really felt afraid to be around him in fear I would set him off. That’s when I called the marriage counselor. This was 4 months ago. The counselor met w me, then met w my husband, and then we both saw him. This has been the only place where I felt safe that I could bring anything up that bothered me and where I felt like I could really express myself in my way. He did stop swearing directly at me – He was nicer and I wasn’t hearing “fuck you” “bitch”, but he still swears frequently (example: almost every time he’s driving),
Unfortunately, summer has meant several weekly appointments have been cancelled.
My husband now has weekly work meetings at the same time as our weekly marriage counselor appointment was. And the swearing has started again.
