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[theclozer]

[quote=”Missladyt_17″]Hi,

I think your biggest mistake is your asking her to come and work for you.I think the working together will pose a problem for you guys in the future due to your relationship. I already see red flags due to her situation, she is not ready to jump back into another relationship it is to soon. She has already told you what she wants and you seem to be ignoring that fact. I think she should find employment someplace else because you are going to get hurt in this process. You want something more than she is able to give at this time.

I do not doubt that the chemistry is there along with the passion but please do not cross that line at this time and there is nothing wrong in remaining friends at this time. If you cross that line then be ready to deal with what happens next. Just remember that it is a little to soon for this young lady. I think if you give her space and time you guys could have some type of relationship in the future.[/quote]

Thanks for the advice all I can get I greatly appreciate. I want to clarify a bit more. She is actually my business partner so we more then work together we own the business together. We both made the move together to come and open the business in this new town together. I can say this much the chemistry and respect and friendship we have has made our business live a 100% better we work so well together because of how we feel about each other.

I know she told me she is not ready. I respect that and understand that and no not ignoring it per say. I am giving her plenty of space and let her dictate the pace of the relationship. She told me in the beginning she is not ready but now she says she is scared because her feelings for me tell her different. She gets upset with herself for not being able to control how she feels about me because it conflicts with what she has told herself she wants. She had herself so convinced she did not want a relationship she wanted her freedom and live alone. Now we found each other and she has strong feelings for me she says she can not control and that is scaring her. We have agreed to take it slow. There is so much respect between us for one another we are treading very lightly here.

I guess the hardest part here is she needs time to heal and find herself. I am willing to give her all the time and space she needs. But whenever we see each other all that goes out the window.

[theclozer]

[quote=”Lynette59″]She could be leading you on in sake that she keep her job and a little extra, be careful! Also you need to decide between relationship or business. They just don’t mix in a new relationship. If she cares about your relationship even on a friend level then she will respect your decision. If its meant to be she will not stay away for long “even without her job”
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I guess I should clarify a bit more she more then works for me we are actually business partners. So keeping he job not a concern for her.

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