Trini

[Trini]

I think you should leave her alone, permanently.

Women like her dont appreciate men who are nice, and willing to please. You should never have to change anything about yourself to please another woman. It seems like she lost interest in you, and is just hanging on.

[Trini]

im sorry, somehow it got deleted, here is my original post ladies :
so, my name is trini, and im sixteen.
i’ve been doing a lot of dating,(over the past year) and everytime i go out with a guy (maybe 3-4 times) The question pops up, its either “so, why did you and your last guys break up?” or if i tell them i’ve never been in a relationship they ask the dreaded question “so, why [i]haven’t[/i] you ever been in a relationship?”.
And of course i respond with a quick “no reason in particular, i just have not found a man that lives up to my standards”, and of course they nod, and then i have to stop dating them. Why? Well, because i want to have sex with them, but cant. ill explain.
the reason why i dont want to commit to a relationship is because i know its going to lead to sex(because i want it to, not because anyone’s pushing me), and…(Here it comes, drum roll please!) i have some body issues.
but not how you would think, i love my body, i have recently lost about 100lbs and have been feeling great about my body, my stomach is nice and flat, my thighs are nice and smoothe, and flab…what flab? I HAVE NONE. but. there is one part of my body that i hate, my uh, breasts. yes, i have been losing and gaing weight all of my life, and now theya re just well, not perky at all. (believe me, if they at least stood up a little i would not be writing to you, i’d be happy with them.) And thats what scares me, being seen naked, im scared that guys will see my breasts and run the other way, i have no problem attracting men, im quite good at it . But to be honest, i know its kind of petty, thats the reason why i refuse to commit to a man. Its almost like im saving HIS time, and wasting mine. I’ve gone down the “get a breast reduction” route, that sounds good in theory, but guess what? I cant find a doctor within 32543252 miles that will operate on me, because im either too young or im not a “high risk” patient. WTF? (excuse my language) but getitng down to it, im a saggy 36 dd and im scared shitless that any guy will be scared shitless if they seen me naked, in other words im afraid of being rejected (i havent been in so long, that i dont even want to remember what if feels like) so i guess my options are wait until im eighteen and get them lifeted but….i want the sex and relationship now, should i just give up on dating ?
Im asking because i have a guys wanting serious relationship with me, but i dont know what to say

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