I loved the article about how nice guys finish last. It describes my girlfriend and I perfectly. The question is, at what point should a man become the “good guy” and open his heart and give everything he has? For example, when I first met my girlfriend of almost 3 years now, I was that cocky, confident guy — she always wanted to see me and spend time with me — there was nothing I could do wrong. Throughout the course of our relationship I have become the always available man described in this article. As such, our relationship, namely her desire to be with me, talk to me, and spend time together, has faded greatly although she says she loves me so much. What should I do? Should I become cocky and unavailable to spark her interests and desire again? I mean, at what point during a relationship do you lose that ego and pour your heart out unconditionally? Or are you not supposed to ever do that? My heart aches for her to be that “old” girlfriend when we first started to date. This is the woman I want to marry someday but I’m so confused. Of course there are many details that go into this relationship which I will save until I can speak to April. I need to know if this relationship has hope or should I leave it now and find a better match. About me: I’m 29, in medical school, and there isn’t a woman I run into that doesn’t compliment me on my looks regardless of her age. Please help. I’m afraid my girlfriend is going to leave me for another confident cocky guy (like I used to be), because she seems so bored with me.
