lynn

[lynn]

I appreciate all the advice and I will do my best to get out of this situation. I confronted my husband about some of the issues I have and he got up and went to work on his day off. He found a place to live and was going to move in a week. I was devastated as I have no means of support and the rent was still behind. I have had chronic pain for 2 years. I had a partial hysterectamy and it still didn’t help. Now I have pain everywhere. I was sent to a pain specialist and he diagnosed me with fibromyalga. I also have carpul tunnel and had surgery on my right hand. I can use it but not for long periods of time. Also vibration makes it worse. My health has deteriorated over the past 2 years and I believe its due to the kind of stressful and abusive life I’ve always had. I also am in need of a free dentist LOL! I have the worst toothaches from my wisdom teeth. All of my health problems are the least of my worries for now because I have to worry about my son. He is 21 and he collapsed last year and he was diagnosed with 5 anneurysms. One was bleeding. He had surgery , four were clipped,and he has one more to clip. The state denied his medical help because SSI denied him. My son will have to have angiograms once a year for the rest of his life. Every day I count my blessings that he is still alive. He has had some frontal lobe disorder from his surgery but he is still an amazing person. I am and have been appealing the denials from SSI and we should hear soon. If he is accepted then he can get his medical help. He never even got his follow up angiogram after his surgery. Anyway I told my husband that I couldn’t live like this anymore and I was willing to let him go that I want someone who could love me unconditionally and someone that has no reason to hide things from me. The oddest thing happened. He turned back into the man i fell in love with. I don’t know how long it will last but at least it buys me some time to plan and a little less chaos. Its only been three days.

[lynn]

Thanks for the quick response! I feel a little better. Sometimes help is better from an outsider. I have something else to tell you know that you know a little about what could be going on. I don’t believe that he is having an affair with a women. I believe that it is his best friend. At first when we moved in together I noticed a lot of calls on his cell phone from the same number. Well my husband and I use to talk 2,000 minutes a month, which I thought was alot ❗ This number was just as much or more than mine. It was his best friends number. They would call each other continously all day. Not for just a minute or two but 10 to 20 minutes or more a day. Odd 🙄 When I asked him about it he got mad and said he’s been my friend for almost 20 years. It seemed almost right after that he stopped calling me so much so I checked the bill. He was now definately calling him more. Over the past 2 years I feel like I am in constant competition with this “other man” 😡 We don’t go to his house together and he won’t come to ours. The one time he did he brought a male friend and when my husband was showing off his toys(RC trucks) he got mad and went outside and stood by the vehicle waiting for the friend he brought. Two days ago it took my husband a little longer than normal to get hime. When I asked what took so long he said he went around another way thinking it would be faster( this way went rihgt by his friends house). Doesn’t even make sense if you knew where I lived. So he changed his clothes, all but his underwear ,and he always changes right away. I was picking up his clothes,when i asked him where are your underwear he said “Oh I still have them on””So I waited and when he went to sleep after he changed and showered i picked them up and I smelled them. I then took them to the dirty clothes and got another pair and smelled them. The pair he wore that day smelled like semen. There was no hint of a woman. I would like to make his life hell. We haven’t had sex in over a month and it doesn’t bother me. I’m used to it. I can’t bring myself to even kiss him much less 😯 I know that there is infidelity kits that test for semen but I wonder if there is any type of quick home remedy. I would really like to prove it because I would like to take him for everything and since I can’t work I need spousal support. 😛

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