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[youngbuck01]

Hi April,

Ok, I will “man up” and do the right thing and be straightforward with my friend regarding how I feel about his mom (ie. that I’m attracted to her) and also relay the fact that she has been flirting with me for awhile now. And I’ll see how he reacts to this and proceed from there….

[youngbuck01]

Hi all,

So I received a response from April regarding my predicament. If you haven’t already read her post, she basically said its ok for me to see my friend’s mom as long as I air out this situation with my friend first and if he’s cool then its up to me to pursue it. If its not something he would be in favor of ( which is what I think his opinion would be), then it would probably be in the best interest of our friendship for me to not hang out so often at his mom’s place. The problem with me avoiding my friend’s mom though, is that she has my cell number and I’m sure that she would eventually try to contact me and ask why I wasn’t coming around her place. Guess either way I choose someone is not going to be happy with me… Thats life though right, can’t make everyone happy all the time…

And Kai is right, I’m certainly not interested in getting into a serious relationship with her (whether thats her thinking or not), I’m just interested in the physical/sexual aspect of getting together with her.

So I think what I’m going to do is, the next time I plan to hang out with my friend, I will arrange for us to meet at a neutral place (not his mom’s place) and just tell him that I think his mom has been flirting with me and so on and that I do find her to be attractive and just see what his reaction is to this and ask what would be OK with him regarding his mom and I.

[youngbuck01]

Hi April,

Thank you for the advice. If I do decide to go ahead with any sort of relationship with my friend’s mother, I know that I at least owe it to my friend to pass it by him first so that I am not doing something behind his back that he may not be OK with. I do have a feeling though, that if I do tell him that I am interested in seeing his mother that he would not be too pleased with that proposal. I think I’ll drop some hints about the possibility of my having a relationship with his mother and see how he reacts, then I’ll know better how to proceed.

Thank you again,
Youngbuck01

[youngbuck01]

Hey Kitkat,

The only real reason that I haven’t already pursued any kind of physical relations with my friend’s mom is because of the fact that I do want to maintain my friendship with my friend. I know that if I did have physical/sexual relations with her that eventually he would figure it out/find out and then things would be a big mess between him and I. I am attracted to her though and if it wasn’t for her son being my friend, I’m sure we would have had physical/sexual relations with one another by now. So here I am stuck between a woman whom I am attracted to and is routinely flirting with me and my friendship with my friend….

[youngbuck01]

Kai,

Thanks for your post… I have posted my question in April’s forum… Looking forward to see what she has to say…

What are your thoughts on the matter? I want to get a sort of consensus, then I’ll know better how to proceed…

Thanks again

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