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Wife did nude modelling for a friend and has since changed

#1
Two years ago my wife and i (we are both now 28) were at a friends party when we met a guy who we got on well with and he became a friend of mine. I knew he was a well paid photograher but it was only several weeks later that he told me he did nude photoshoots for erotic magazines, not particularily porn mags but he classed the shoots as tasteful erotica.

He propostioned to my wife to consider being in one of his shoots, and she laughed it off at first but he told her he was serious. She gave it some thought and agreed to do one shoot for a magazine he did regular work for, which i was amazed she would agree to do it but she said it would be something to look back on in years to come.

Well from that first photoshoot she has changed a lot. She told me she had loved it and wanted to do more, and he told her she had a great body and look and he could get her some work.

In 2010 she told me she was having breast implants, which is something she had said in the past did not interest her, and i was shocked at the size she went up to. The photographer friend then suggested he became her agent because of his connections and she accepted his proposal, and the friendship that had been there pre boob job disapeared and i never heard from him and he told me because he was now my wife's agent he didnt want a personal friendship anymore.

Since the breast implants she is just another person completely, her 'agent' parades her around at parties and buys her and chooses the clothes she wears for them, and the photoshoots have become increasingly more erotic in taste..

I just don't know where all this is leading April. She quit her day job to do the modelling earlier this year and is away this week doing a shoot, her agent is there with her, but i text him prior to them leaving and told him i was concerned but he bluntly told me that he had big plans for her.

I need some advice April.

Re: Wife did nude modelling for a friend and has since changed

#2
I'm not sure if you're the same person as stevew or just someone who has a remarkably similar story, but here's the advice I gave him http://www.askapril.com/forums/viewtopi ... 33#p174333. I've gotten similar stories posted here, and they all end the same way -- with the wife leaving the husband after some nude modeling became a "gateway drug" for a different lifestyle -- and a different romantic and sexual partner than the husband. Boudoir photographs as a gift for you and only you are a lot different than getting into the soft core porn industry -- by a long shot! :oops:

The problem is between you and your wife. It really sounds like she's on her way out of the relationship. I'm sorry -- but there's not a lot you can do except tell her what you want from her and the relationship and figure out where your lines in the sand are. A committed couple respects each other's boundaries and values. If she doesn't, then you've learned too late who she really is. If she's crossed your lines in the sand, then the relationship will end. How it ends is up to you. :oops:

I hope this helps. Let me know how things go.

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Re: Wife did nude modelling for a friend and has since changed

#3
Hi April,

I was avoiding dealing with my wife all week, burying my head in the sand hoping she will change back to the person she was. But i did speak to her yesterday about all of my concerns and worries about her. Initially she laughed them off and told me to speak to my ex friend, her agent, about her career, which was a ludicrous statement from her considering we are meant to be husband and wife.

I asked her why she was acting differently with me nowaday's, was it to do with him and did she have feelings for him, and she told me she was sorry but she liked him and they had grown a lot closer but it was since she had got more attention from modelling from men and she couldnt remain married to me anymore.

Re: Wife did nude modelling for a friend and has since changed

#4
My advice is to accept that she's leaving the marriage and get yourself a divorce. The sooner it's over, the sooner you can move on with your life without her.

I'm sorry for your pain -- don't prolong it. :oops:

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