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[Standard] Unsure on what to do

This girl and I got to be very close friends in college. We dated some, but it was never serious. We ended up becoming just friends and then spent time a lot together while not necessarily dating. I transferred to another school and we feel out of touch.

Several months ago I moved to start a new job and it's brought me into contact with her family. We've started to talk again and have spent a little time together. Our families get along well together and I know that some of them are hoping for us to be together. I realize that I never got over my crush on her, and seem to like her even more now. We live a little ways apart (2 hrs) but we've talked about getting together for dinner one night.

I'm not sure what to do in this situation. It's very nice to have the friendship back, but I don't want to jeopardize it. I'm not entirely sure she's interested while some of her family has hinted that she seems to be. I think that's more family trying to play match-maker since I'm here with them and she's away. How should I handle this situation?

Re: [Standard] Unsure on what to do

It sounds like you dated, but slid into the friend zone, and now, a few years have gone by, you've graduated from college, and you find yourself only two hours away, wondering what could be. I know you don't want to risk the friendship, but you're at the age where you may lose this opportunity if you don't take it. Imagine if she started dating someone else and it got serious. The friendship you have with her would change. Her focus would be on her boyfriend, and you'd be someone from her past that she sees now and then. I think that it's time to get out of the friend zone and take a risk. You may find out that the two of you really enjoy taking things to a more romantic level at this point in your lives -- and if you don't, then at least you'll have tried. The worst thing you can do is to not give it a shot, and to have regrets. So hedge against that -- and go to dinner with her, and make it romantic. See what's there. You may find your feelings are different, as are hers. As for family match making...
try not to think about your family and her family -- and just focus on what you like about her, and give it a go. You're only two hours away now, and you've both grown, matured, and had some life experience under your belt. Use this potential dinner as opportunity. Meet up, show her a romantic good time, and see if there are any sparks. ;) Seize the day!
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