Man pulling back or Commitment Phobe
#1I suspect my boyfriend has commitment issues. I've read alot about it. He pulls back fairly often but never completely. When he does I try to match what he does by taking a step back myself so as not to be needy etc. My confusion is that when I slow down in texting or reaching out in response to his pulling back, he gets angry about it. This past weekend he was in pull back mode and I didn't hear from him all day Sat. He made no attempt to get together all weekend and a couple of days prior to the weekend. So I was out of town on Sat. with friends. I felt sad that I didn't hear from him, but didn't reach out. That evening he texted me with a "Guess I'll have to be the better person and say hello. Hope you had a great day. Good night." I responded with telling him he had told me he was going to be tied up all day and I was actually out of town. Sorry if you were upset. His response was "First of all, you didn't tell me you were gonna be out of town. 2nd..even if you're busy, you can always say Hi! I then mentioned that since I didn't hear from him either, I just assumed he was busy. There was no apology from him and he then just said goodbye. I could tell he was pissed or pretended to be. It felt to me that he was feeling guilty about not contacting me all day but turned the tables and put the blame on me. How do I handle it when I want to match his pull backs and he then gets this attitude? Should I bring it ti his attention that it appears he's turning the table ob me?