[Sally]

You’re not crazy for being upset. Eight years of “separated” but never actually finishing the divorce… that’s a whole pattern, not an accident. And the part that hits me is how he gets angry when you bring it up. That’s usually what people do when they know they’re in the wrong and don’t want to deal with it.

It’s not about time or money. If someone wants out of a marriage, they make it happen. You already handed him every shortcut, every chance to move forward, and he still didn’t take it.

I know you care about him, but don’t ignore what he’s showing you. You’re building a life with a man who won’t even close the last one. That’s a heavy place to stand, and you deserve something steadier than that.