Your marriage ended this year, and three months later, you are in a relationship. The truth is that you haven’t given yourself time to heal. Your mind is still in survival mode, so it is looking at every new person through the old filter.
I agree with April that you should stop living in fear and start questioning why you’re repeating these old patterns. Dating is a journey, and ‘strike outs’ are just part of the game. Don’t worry too much—focus on your own growth and start enjoying your life again