I understand what your saying. I do keep playing head games with myself, I seem to have this unconscious desire to make my life more complicated. I know she used to be a cheat, and I’m not making excuses, but there were reasons why, she was young and I forgave her and moved on.
Surely one is not inclined to cheat on their partners throughout their lives if they did it when they were younger? Surely they can change? That being said her mother is on her 4th husband so I’m not sure how that reflects in her daughter.
But I hear you. Its the same things my friends have been telling me. The mind is willing to listen but the heart is being stubborn. I’m somehow sure that things would be different the next time round. Am I being naive? Surely people can change? Or am I just making excuses and hoping for something that won’t happen?