[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure if you’ve written me before, but if you have, I remember a phrase you told me he said, “men mess up”. If you are the same person, please remember to link new posts to the old ones so we can all have the benefit of reading your entire history.

From what you write here, this guy is Mr. Wrong. I think you know it, but you get lonely and keep coming back to him. You’re going to have to find some strength to break up and move on — for good.

You have trust issues with him; you don’t like his family issues and you don’t want to raise so many children. These are all good reasons to call it a day with this relationship. I’m sorry, but I’m probably telling you what you already know. It’s time for you to let him go and don’t look back.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go — and please follow me on Twitter @AskAprilcom (no dot) for relationship advice highlights. You can also join me on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].