Thanks to the ones that answered my post….I will tell you that everything that was said made sense..I agree 100%…since my latest post..I have come to the decision that I will no longer be his”mistress”…I am better than that..and although it doesnt seem that I have any self worth,by having this happen…I do have morals…and the last thing I want is to break-up his family..even with his condesending words of being so in love with me and that ..”he is just there”…..I have questioned maybe all anong..I gave the benifit of the doubt…I have stopped contact with him and told him point blank…that I cant do this anymore…and yes it hurts…but in the end I am better for it..guess no one dies with a broken heart afterall,,,I hope that my post may have helped someone else in a similar situation..thanks !