[April Masini, your AskApril]

The problem isn’t her. It’s you. You say one thing and do another. 😕

If you don’t want to talk on the phone after 10:30 p.m., then don’t. Hang up. Disconnect the phone. It’s pretty easy. If you don’t want to accept text messages at 3 a.m., then don’t. Turn off your phone. Put it in a drawer. Turn it on in the morning. Again, simple! But when you say you can’t stay on the phone, and then do so, you’re sending out mixed messages! 🙁

If she says she’s going to find someone else to talk to you if you’re not available, then take the hint: you’re expendable to her. 😳 She doesn’t sound very respectful of you, and therefore, not a good partner. Sorry! You haven’t met Ms. Right.

If you continue to enable her behavior, she’s going to continue to dish it out. So just stop it. Stop looking for her to be in charge. You’re in charge of you, so start taking charge of your life.

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