[April Masini, your AskApril]

His hot and cold emotions are probably the expression of his bi-polar disorder. That’s part of who he is, and you can ask him to make sure his medication is correct, but this is something you and your child are going to have to deal with with him for the rest of your lives.

Find a support group for people who are in relationships with those who have bi-polar disorder and do your research so that you know what you’re dealing with in the relationship.

Also, if he won’t get a vasectomy, and you’re having sex with him and you have a child because of failed birth control, YOU should consider having your tubes tied so that you don’t put any more kids in this situation.

I’m sorry this is difficult for you, but the job you now face is to make sure it doesn’t get any more difficult and to try and make your child’s life the best possible one.