Your points are very valid — if he thinks that he will solve his problems in a week or a month and will then want to get back together again, why not just take a break rather than break up? ❓ I suspect, however, that he just really isn’t sure and he doesn’t want to string you along if he’s not sure.
However, after dating for two and a half years, he should be sure if he wants to stay with you. That he isn’t sure is a strong sign that you need to move on rather than wait around for someone who is not ready for the serious relationship you are.
It sounds like you haven’t done anything wrong, but that he’s just not in a place in his life when he will be able to commit to anyone — including you. 😳 In fact he may be someone who is very fragile and delicate and doesn’t handle stress well across the board and this is the first time you’re learning If he breaks up with you then your allegiance has to be to you — not him and not the relationship since he’s dissolving that. So if he breaks up with you, I wouldn’t stay friendly with him to make him feel better. Let him miss you and know what it’s really like to be without you. If he changes his mind AND you’re still available when he’s ready, then you can decide if you want to date him if he asks. But for now, if he’s breaking up with you, make it a clean break.
I know this is hard in the short term, but it will be much easier for you in the long run if you do it this way. I know this hard for you, but you’re going to do the right thing — I can tell.
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