I know from experience what it is like to be bullied. I know I would like the people apologize to me, but I know now that the past is the past. If I was in your shoes, I would send her a message and see if you guys could hang out sometime, just be open with her. I wouldn’t apologize to her just yet about it because if you want to get to know a girl that you once bullied, it’s not the best thing to start out by apologizing. You might want to get to know her first then apologize for doing what you did. If you start out right away to apologize, she might think that you are getting to know her now because you feel sorry for what you did. In a way to get her to go out or hang out with you, I would start off simple. You said that she has some personal issues from what you heard, don’t bring those up but maybe you can use those to your advantage to break the ice. If she looks better than what she did in middle school/high school then let her know that. Most people with self-esteem issues likes to hear that stuff even if they don’t want to admit it. As for apologizing to her, I wouldn’t bring it up unless she does because it might bring back bad memories. A person with self-esteem you have to get to know them and how they interact before you can tell them anything. I know this because I had low self-esteem….well still do, but it’s getting better. As for the past, again, I wouldn’t bring it up unless she does. Just tell her something that you are trying to get a hold of old friends from middle school/ high school and see what they have been up to since it’s been awhile, you don’t have to tell her that it’s just her, but if she wants to hang out with a couple of people from back then, it wouldn’t hurt to look up more friends just in case. I hope this helps!
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