[April Masini, your AskApril]

Stop blaming your husband. Blaming doesn’t help the fact that this marriage was over before it began. Instead, roll up your sleeves and fix this:

Get divorced. Get a job and child care. Find the father of your child and use the court system to order a DNA test and get child support and a custody order so that he can be in your daughter’s life. Her father is important to her. Set an example for your daughter by being the woman you want her to be.

Forget about this other guy. Any guy who wants to date a married woman isn’t right for you — in fact, don’t date anyone until you have a job, your own apartment, child care, child support and a custody arrangement with your daughter’s dad. You have a lot of responsibility and your own love life comes last in line to what your child needs.

You made mistakes and [b]badfinger’s [/b]remarks are important for you to hear because they are valid as those of another reader who is a man.

I hope this helps you with your choices. Let me know how it goes and if you need further advice. I truly wish you good luck.