[April Masini, your AskApril]

I don’t think you have a commitment phobia. I think you’re just not dating smart. There are lots of women like you, so relax. You’re not alone, but you will be if you don’t change your behavior. Get my book called Think & Date Like A Man. You can order it as an automatic download here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] or you can buy it at Amazon or Barnes & Noble. This book will help you understand how to date in order to find, get and keep Mr. Right.

So buy it and read it.

In the meantime, understand that the guy you have is not Mr. RIght. Any guy who you can say that at age 32 he is not confident, and he is weak and unsuccessful and lazy in his career is not a guy I want you dating. And on top of that your sex life isn’t great. A guy who is Mr. Right is ready to settle down — which is what you clearly want.

You won’t feel your anxiety when you’re with a guy who you know will make a good husband. You’re choosing guys you want to [i]bend[/i] into Mr. Right. If you can remember the toy, Gumby, you’ll know that he’s a TOY not a real man. Men don’t bend.

So get the book and read it. You’ll know what to do when you finish. And I’m here, too!

Please follow me on Twitter, as well @AskAprilcom (no dot!).