[April Masini, your AskApril]

She is self centered and not a generous person. If you want a relationship of any kind — friendship, romance or marriage — she’s a bad bet. If you want to have fun on her timetable, knowing that she will likely stand you up regularly and not do what she says she will, well, then….she’s your girl. 😕

The question here is why you’re confused and hurt — the lonely part I get. After someone says one thing and does another more than twice or three times, it becomes clear that this behavior isn’t aberrant. It’s normal — for them. So there should be no confusion here that she’s going to continue to treat you like a disposable servant who manipulates you with promises of friendship, etc., but doesn’t walk the walk of a friend. Your hurt doesn’t make any sense because she’s shown you her true colors. If you open your eyes and see who she is, you won’t count on her. When you stop counting on her, your hurt will disappear. You’ll realize she doesn’t mean what she says and you won’t take her words to heart.

The lonely part — now THAT’S something you can do something about! 😉 Read my book called Date Out of Your League written for men who want to get the girl, and learn how to find, attract and win over Ms. Right. Here’s the link where you can buy the book: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go. And please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter, and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].