You have to understand that YOU can’t save him from his historical problems. HE is the only one who can deal with his abandonment issues and his negativity. If you enable his behavior you’re adding to the problem, not helping him.
Feeling chronic anxiety and developing physical problems as a result of the stress from a dating relationship are signs that this isn’t working for you. You need to be honest with yourself and him that this relationship is making you sick and that’s why you need to leave it.
Breaking up with him and explaining why you’re breaking up with him is not abandonment. You are not his parent and you are not abandoning him. You’re taking care of your health so you can be in a healthy relationship with someone who wants the same for himself, for you and for the life you may share together.
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