I think you’re having a hard time accepting that she’s moving on. After four years, of course there are still feelings. People have feelings after they divorce ending twenty year marriages, but it doesn’t stop them from moving on. I don’t think that pursuing her is going to work — especially on the heels of your breaking up a four year relationship because you wanted your freedom. You have to understand that her devastation was the catalyst for her wanting to move on in her life.
I’m sorry. I know this is hard. Focus on yourself and your own life as a single guy. If she’s at all interested, she’ll make you aware of that, but pursuing her is only going to make her angry now. 😳
April Masini, your AskApril