I’m not sure how old you are, but it’s time for you to understand that your girlfriend is involved with another man. You’re doing everything you can to blame her, blame him, blame her family — and granted, they are all encouraging the relationship that she has with him — but you’re not looking at this realistically. She is not ready to be in a relationship with you because she’s committed to her ex-boyfriend and she’s made a family with him that her mother and her mother’s family is encouraging and welcoming. This isn’t someone who is available to you. You can demand, you can beg, you can moralize, you can justify — but at the end of the day you said it yourself: she’s not valuing your feelings or her relationship with you.
Put the engagement ring back in your pocket and save it for someone who wants to be [i]all [/i]yours.
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