[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re not a bad person, but you’re definitely not ready to get married, and accepting a date with another man when you have a boyfriend that you intend to marry IS cheating!

There is NOTHING wrong with flirting, and there is nothing wrong with men asking you on dates or trying to pursue you sexually. But you have to understand that you are an adult at 20 who is responsible for your own behavior. If you accept these dates or make out with these guys, you’re playing the field. You can’t expect any guy to stick around in a monogamous relationship when you behave this way, so decide if you want to date around or stay with this one guy and be monogamous. If it’s the latter, all you have to do is control your behavior and be loyal to your boyfriend.

Doing that is pretty simple. It means not flirting in ways that will hurt your boyfriend and not dating other men if your boyfriend thinks you have a commitment.

I hope that helps.

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