April Masini, your AskAprilLook, first of all, you have a child, so you can’t just move in with some boyfriend. It’s not responsible. You have to put the child’s needs first. This isn’t just you and the guy. It’s you, the guy and your son.
Second, since you are only now gaining full legal custody this month, your custody of your son is at stake. If you screw this up, you could lose custody of your child. This is serious. It’s not fair to your son to put his life in chaos. Stay put until you have a year or two of legal custody of your son under your belt.
Third, and maybe most important if you weren’t a mother, this guy is giving you a very clear message with his actions. If he really wanted you to move in with him, he would have made things welcoming for you and your child. Instead, he’s still got the roommate there, hasn’t cleared out a room for your son, and isn’t being direct about your moving in. In fact, he’s avoiding the subject altogether. This is a clear sign, he’s not really interested in your moving in with him. Pay attention to his actions, and don’t get deluded by what you fantasize or wish would be happening.
My advice to you is to get a job and make some money so you can afford your own place first. Set up house with you and your son and get stable. Living with your parents is a wonderful support for you, but you need to move on with your adult life.
Because you’re a mother first, you really shouldn’t be moving your son in with a boyfriend unless you’re marrying the guy. It’s not fair to your son, and you may be jeopardizing your custody.
So get your ducks in a row, so to speak. Get a job and save up enough money to get a place near enough your parents so that they can babysit while you go out on dates. Then after you’ve gotten your custody and your living situation straightened out, THEN you can start dating again.
