[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your questions are good ones, but they may not be related to what could possibly be the real reason for your writing me: It’s only been a couple of months since your break up from what I can tell from your post. Although you’ve dated casually since then, you haven’t had another real boyfriend. It’s normal to be lonely and reminisce about someone you did love. I think the big problem is that you’re not dating anyone right now and you’re allowing your mind to wander to your last ex.

Clearly the solution to that problem is to stick with being single and stick with looking for Mr. Right where you are. Finding Mr. Right isn’t easy, and you’re not used to doing the hard work in a relationship because you haven’t been single for very long.

In answer to your questions, I don’t think you are too headstrong. I think lots of women are focused on their careers, and you need to find a man who is compatible with your life goals. Your ex-boyfriend wasn’t. Yes, in answer to your other question, a profession can wreck a relationship, but in your case, that’s a cop out. You two just weren’t compatible. I don’t think you are overly focused on your career from what you wrote. You didn’t tell me your age or his, but I think you’re in your 20s, and that’s a perfect time to focus on a career path. And your last question gets a “qualified” answer. Yes, you can repair this relationship, but it will require you or him having a personality transplant! 😆 He’s not leaving Seattle, so you’ll have to go there and he wants to get married, so you’ll have to change your career plans — or else he’ll up and move to you and be patient while you get your career off the ground.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go. And join me on Facebook. Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. 🙂