April Masini, your AskApril[quote]hmmm so do you think she is keeping her options open because she knows I am not the ONE? … OR is she keeping her options open because she is still getting to know me and needs more time to figure out if she wants anything to do with me long term???
The answer is the latter. Three and a half months of dating is about the time when you figure out if you want to continue seeing this person more seriously. She’s balancing a former betrayal by a fiance with having her family meet you to check you out so she doesn’t make another big mistake. I know you think that the family vacation invitation indicates she’s serious, but you have to balance that with the fact that she did have a bad experience with a man she chose to marry (and didn’t).
You’ve chosen someone who has some baggage and she is going to carry that baggage with her and it will be part of any decision she makes. If you feel that this baggage creates an incompatibility for you, then let go and move on. If you’re up for the challenge of someone with a different history than the one you have, then keep going.
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